Growing balls: empowering self before seeking help

Thanks to a friend for sending a recent post in a lair forum to me. I'm glad someone finally saw the light. People don't need coaches for basic instinctual human behaviors, such as engaging in social interactions with other human beings.

The problem with self-help is people are constantly looking for help from everywhere instead of looking within, finding what courage they have, doing what is necessary to improve their own conditions. For a lack of a better phrase, they need to grow balls instead of buying the illusion of balls from douchebags.

If these douchebag coaches are truly that successful or that great at doing what they are teaching to other people. Even if people are paying them money, they wouldn't do it. I can certainly use more income and I certainly am not that great with the ladies, but I still wouldn't hang out with some socially awkward guys who just read that book and decided to go out to sarge because they paid me!

I do, however, have plenty of socially awkward friends, and I am not exactly a very socially savvy person. Yet, they are my friends because they are not creepy, by that, I am referring to guys with no hidden agendas and no intention of trying to get something from me. It's natural to have sex, but it's not natural to want to have sex with any girl.

This is the very reason why I avoid community guys, because they have no standards for themselves and they will stoop to whatever level to get sex, even if that means paying some douchebags who will teach them how to pickup. Instead of paying people in order to get sex, they could have enriched their lives if they just have friends, people who are there for each other, without any ulterior motives. And if normal and socially well-adjusted individuals want something, they make their desires known instead of trying to scheme, plan, and manipulate their way.

Sure, there are plenty hustlers out there, and some are quite good. But these guys rarely work at jobs that are devoid of social interactions. Also, these guys started hustling at a very young age. And most important of all, they don't pay someone to learn to hustle. At some point in life, people have to accept themselves for who and what they are. They can make changes to improve themselves, only if they take the initiative of doing that themselves. They also have to be realistic with their own expectations, otherwise, they end up being delusional with themselves and others. And sure enough, they become coaches hustling other guys instead of girls.