Free Levi and Sarah

Many in the community think that the only way to get laid is to go through bootcamps and practice a thousand sets. If they just look around, they would see how rampant sex is, even among those ring-wing religious zealots in America! Many are not surprised at all that Jamie Lynn Spears got knocked up, but Bristol Palin... the daughter of the governor of Alaska?! The real tragedy, however, is the poor Levi who inseminated her. If you have missed this, please go join this campaign!

Then this past weekend, that cringe-inducing, face-covering, I-am-embarrassed-for-her Sarah Palin interview by Katie Couric.

Once again, I find myself agreeing with some conservatives, we need to free Palin. We need to send her back to the wilderness of Alaska and let her go kill more moose! To pull her from the backwater of America and shove her onto the world stage, haven't we done enough to the world after years of Dubya?!

Someone said it best, Dubya spent the first 4 years destroying America and the second 4 years destroying the world. I think we have done enough, not just to the world and America, but we must stop torturing that poor Palin. She epitomizes what's wrong with the current administration, the stupidity & bravado of Dubya, along with the secrecy & treachery of Cheney.

What about McCain? I don't consider him a war hero, plenty of people went to war and got captured. Countless prisoners of war have been tortured. He didn't do more or less than any American P.O.W. in Vietnam. To hold him up as a hero while neglecting the rest is simply disrespectful to everyone who served this country. If that isn't enough, this is the same guy who returned to his faithful wife, then proceeded to commit adultery and claimed that his experience as a P.O.W. caused him to do that. Normally, I don't care if who people have sex with, but in his case and those self-proclaimed moralists, I hold them to the same standards that they forced on others. And his current wife was one of many women he had sex with during his adulterous period while he was still married to his first wife. Don't get me started on how many U.S. Navy planes he crashed.

Why is McCain important, because this senile old man and advisers he has inherited from Dubya are holding these two individuals prisoners. They plucked two poor souls out of their natural environments and are forcing them to do unspeakable acts. The poor kid, Levi, just had sex with a girl and now he has to marry her. The former runner-up beauty queen was happily lording over her little domain and now she has to face national scrutiny.

Please join me in calling your local Republican office, tell them to free Levi & Sarah, send them back to Alaska!

Why she will win...

Sarah Palin, VP-ILK'08!

Manufactured happiness

A few posts back, I suggested that we have to make a conscious decision to be happy and we must learn to make due with what we have. Guess what? I blogged from my personal experience, and apparently, some smarter people have done research into this and here's the video that I just stumbled onto.

What it comes down to is that the availability of choice is the source of our unhappiness. In other words, if we don't choose to live with what we have/are, then we are condemned to unhappily chase that nebulous, elusive dream.

I stumbled upon this idea that we have to consciously choose to be happy from my personal life. People with limited intelligence, by that, I mean, retards are extremely happy. They are happy in the sense that they are not unhappy. They don't know any better. The other set of people who are relatively happy is older adults; as people get older, opportunities and freedom to choose once available to them no longer exist and they eventually learn to accept their conditions. These are people who are aware of something better but choose to accept their current situation.

This is all well and good, limiting one's ability to choose and accepting reality. I also see some who are also unhappy with themselves, these are individuals who constantly compare themselves against other. I might touch on this topic in the future. For now, I have always emphasize on focus on oneself, what we want, and we will deal with a bigger context in relation to others.

Intelligent design?!

I think this is totally HAWWWT!

See more funny videos at Funny or Die

Yes, I'm back, bitches!

Are you adventurous?

Don't watch if you have a fear of heights...

This video destroyed the fond memory of my childhood.

Ken Lee!

Contrast this:

With this:

Should I be nice to girls?

This question often crosses the mind of guys when they interact with girls. The scenario is so-and-so is pretty hot, I want to ask her out, if I'm nice to her, buy her drinks, then may be we can start chatting, etc. The answer is an unequivocal no. However, if I am a genuinely nice person and I come from a place that I don't need her to make me happy, then being nice to girls is okay... Again, the answer is a conditional yes. What do I mean by that?

Before I elaborate on the details on what to do, let's start with the frame, or the conditions by which we conduct ourselves. Nice guys often have been trampled and used by girls in the past and so in reaction, they tend to become assholish to get back at girls. This reactivity is not congruent with those guys and girls can see through that... and why let girls dictate how we behave?! Instead, the better frame would be that (1) we have choices with girls, (2) we are here to evaluate or we decide whether they are worthy to be with us, (3) they are chasing us and we lead.

With those guidelines in mind, then the answer is that we are nice to girls when we feel they deserve us. This begins with how we initiate our conversation with girls... Unless we have the attitude that we don't care how she might respond to us in the beginning, it's best not to compliment girls first. There are exceptions, however. Say I want to ask her something about fashion, I can start with, "Hey, you seem like you know about fashion..." and look her up & down in a non-creepy way. Now, I just complimented her AND I already subcommunicated to her that I also evaluated her, so I have a reason to talk with her.

Once that we have started talking with girls, we can role play... and to further re-inforce our frame that we are superior, leading, higher, and be the daddy figure that she is looking for, she is almost always subservient. Again, this requires finesse to do successfully... by being fun and playful which she knows on one hand that we are joking and on another, we subtly communicated to her that we are not there to please her but to evaluate her. I even explicitly say that I will give her a job performance review later because she has been working very hard for a promotion. There is a huge difference between evaluating vs. judging her.

This gets back to the common question of whether we can compliment girls, the answer is a conditional yes. We should praise them when we feel they deserve it. There are more subtleties of how this is done. For girls who are hot in the looks department, then focus on her intellect, i.e., some things that most people don't see. Again, it's okay to be a nice guy, not just any Joe Schmoe nice guy. For girls who aren't that good looking, then focus on some positive aspects of their look. This should be avoided in general unless you know what you are doing. The more vague, at least among straight guys, of the compliment, the better... nebulous things like outlook, energy, vibe, sexy... which guys usually don't talk about.

As for doing things just to be nice to girls, again, only when they deserve it. If she has been cool and fun, then it's ok to buy her drinks or even dinner, only if it was just appetizer, and, she has been a good conversationalist. The trick of being a playful evaluator is to be tricky, and be ready to throw her a curve ball now and then. There's more to being a conditional nice guy that I will elaborate on next time. Until next time, follow his advice...

It is what it is...

Some people have read this and wondered why am I not what I appear to be on here. I know there are quite a few people try to psychoanalyze me using my posts here... good luck in figuring me out! The closest analogy I can think of this blog is this...

You know, when you consume an excess amount of veggies, and if you are not regular, may be you take some fiber supplements. So you feel a bit gaseous and have this urge to just let loose. Well, this is what this blog is for me. This is my mental crapper. If you haven't tried colonic, I find blogging as a wonderful relief for the mental constipation that I sometimes feel. So you've been warned! Don't bother turning on the fan so that you can clear the air and get a glimpse of what's happening. Don't bother lighting candles to cover up that smell. On the one hand, the stench drives many away, but on the other, people are inherently curious to see what's up. So here you are.

Once in awhile, you might find a gem or two in my posts. It's like hunting for diamonds in a landfill. If you do find diamonds there, they probably are not the result of spontaneous localized pressure that created diamonds in situ, but someone accidentally discarded them. In other words, my ideas have probably been published elsewhere or that people don't realize that how valuable their ideas really are, at least for me! I don't expect people to get what I post right away or to even understand why I blog in the first place. I blog because I can.

MANY people use blogs as a marketing tool, which I do sometimes when I feel the urge to experiment or to mess with people. Some bloggers use this as a tool to seek validation or to prove something to someone out there in the ether. Some chronicle their lives online, some lie, some fabricate, some exaggerate, more bullshit as far as I'm concerned. There are some bloggers who use this medium to advocate for something. A few try to be helpful, which I did long ago and I think some of my ideas have taken hold or at least helped people kill time. I'm not egotistical enough to think that I can change the world, I just make the best of it.

In the end, I go for a good laugh. You probably won't find what I post here that funny or I would have became a professional comedian. This is also not a good place to keep a tab on me or to stalk me online, it's almost like looking at my shit to figure out what I ate. You better be a professional in forensic. And believe me, eating is not the only activity I do but it sure seems to be if you are a regular reader of my blog! I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not, and if you ask people who truly know me, they will tell you that I... I'm just one among six billions. The world is a big & wondrous place with plenty of people.

My focus is rarely on the few winners, not that I want to or can be the champion for the underdog, I believe people should go for what works for many instead of buying into the marketing hype. I can appreciate the nuance and complexity within my reality. It is what it is... for me. Don't worry, I will go back to making fun of closeted gays in the community and delusional dumbfucks who buy into the whole self-improvement & passive income bullshit, I'm juvenile that way.

It's the fat that makes you look fat

And your attitude doesn't soften your look either, girls can be just as clueless! Back to getting girls...

First we patent how to get girls, then sex, and mark my words, walking and breathing will be next!

P.S. Sorry I've stolen your precious Dora the explorer... I'll make it up to you by decoding "the famed blue balls."

P.P.S. The best review I've read of TD's The Blueprint Decoded by Ubermensch:

"k guys, i just watched the first dvd of blueprint then went out for a coffee and THREE girls passed out in a moist pile of ladyjuice when I coughed. A fourth was taken to hospital because her vagina would not shut. thanks tyler!"

Drinking the Kool-Aid in moderation

In pursuit of dreams, most people lose sight of what is possible vs. what is probable. This goes back to my argument and my proposition that people should think twice about pursuing "the American Dream." With respect to pickup, most newbies ought to temper their enthusiasm with some realistic self-examinations.

Most marketeers, or as I often called them in my blog, hustlers want us to believe that anything is possible. The closest analogy is I can think of is like buying ONE (or a few) lottery tickets and expecting to win. Derren Brown did something similar recently in winning horse races. He came up with "The System" for winning horse races ALL THE TIME! I'll leave you to watch it for yourself... If you wonder how he did it, he used the tried-and-true method, by systematically applying the law of probability.

If you have ever wondered how to have the sure-fire way of winning the lottery, buy all the tickets that cover all the different combinations of numbers. Otherwise, your chance of winning is very slim. But for some reasons, when people embark on these self-improvement journeys, they all think they will become superstars. I compare this to "drinking the Kool-Aid." The cult-like devotion to gurus, blindly following their gospels, this proves exactly what pickup/seduction gurus warned people about, don't become beta-males. But if someone were to follow someone else blindly without question, that, in effect, is being beta to the leader.

This blog has been about critically examining this sociological phenomenon, whether there's any validity to the methods, the skill level and the factually accurate rate of success of their practitioners. In my experience, most of the materials from well-known gurus do work, but they don't work all the time, on everyone, at anywhere. In fact, in cases where they do work, that's usually when I was being genuine and not out "gaming" girls. Eventually, people will realize that they are being played and they don't like that at all. Being playful is one thing, but being deliberately deceitful and trying to get whatever from people are totally different.

The best way to succeed in life is to work hard and following the traditional paths to success. Sure, there are some unconventional mavericks who do rise to the top, what we don't ever get to see are the billions who tried and failed. You know, similar to FR/LR, they don't ever report ALL the sets that blew them out. Like JFK once said, "Success has a thousand proud parents, the loser is a lonely orphan." Because of people and their egos, they all think that anything is within their grasp, and in trying to get there, they usually end up grasping air and appearing like lunatics.

Take myself for example, I followed the traditional path of building a career; although I'm not the most successful guy around, I am happy with my work and I don't even think about giving it up. I'm also realistic with my ambition, and I often think instead of dream. I continue on the path that is the most probable way of achieving success... And not so surprisingly, I'm quite happy with my results instead of being frustrated or delusional.

This one is for the dreamers...

Some recent revelations

While I was out with my "wings" that I met in the lair over one year ago, girls have pulled me aside on several occasions to ask why I was hanging out with weirdos. I was quite tolerant of those weirdos at that time, so I dismissed questions from those girls as shit tests and eventually, I finally realized the problem.

Almost everyone have seen movies about autistic savants, the classic one being Rain Man, they have this innate talent and no only that, they have this internal compulsion to do that one thing until they get good at that one specific task. In my experience, extroverted guys also have a similar compulsion, they feed off the energy of the group and they can barely stand being alone by themselves. So they naturally have plenty of friends and of course, they usually are quite good with girls. Same way with some guys who are good with women because they have this naturally high sex-drive.

This might be a logical fallacy, then I looked back at guys who have very little experience with women, they tend to have much lower sex drive. Of the guys who I've met in the community, most of them prefer spending time by themselves or go out to game girls with other guys, of course, they almost always end up going home with guys. This led me to coming up with the more accurate description of "sarging," basically, guys going out on dates with other guys.

Back in the forum, guys spend more time trying to convince among themselves who is better at getting girls by posting their (fabricated) reports. For some reasons, this just escaped the attention of these supposedly smart guys, that most of these reports were filed around 2-5am in the morning. Now, I don't have that much sexual experience, and I certainly am not that great in bed, but after sex at night, I'm usually dead tired and sleeping around that time to even think about posting at those early hours. And those who know me can testify that I don't sleep that much, and if I were to be involved in a pull, followed by sex, and may be even a 3some, I certainly wouldn't have the energy nor would I be awake at that time to post or even visit the lair forum.

Then I figured out that guys were more busy in setting up dates, umm, out winging / sarging, with each other and seducing each other to go to workshops, buy into materials, or sign up for bootcamps. Where is a better place to find a group of sexually frustrated, confused, and inexperienced young males than the lair? The lair is the perfect place for gay guys to hide. I don't mean the queer and proud to be queer, but the insidiously destructive kind, the ones who are outwardly in denial, but inwardly self-loathing type. So there it is, the lair is the all new 21st-century version of the old Catholic church for the clergy, where closeted gays hide to seduce young guys. If these guys were truly interested in girls and have the healthy heterosexual drive, they would be good at getting girls instead of spending years in forums looking for wings and newbies. If only they would make a video like this:

The American Dream

George Carlin: The only way to experience it is to be asleep!

Apropos of my recent posts questioning about people pursuing the American Dream, and those who just want to bang as many hot girls as possible without understanding why or knowing how. And worst of all, the dating coaches, the life coaches, and very soon, walking coaches, they all are preying on the dreamers.

This video reminds me once again, why some people are so unhappy and why many others are so happy.

We are all sickos

Who is a big fan of Michael Moore? And a fan of Ayn Rand? I recently saw "Sicko" and not sure why I've waited so long, probably because I've dealt with similar sob stories and I just didn't want to rehash them again. The movie got me thinking about these two polarizing figures.

We, Americans, are idiots, I'm not writing this because it's the popular opinion, but because of the following. We have many self-starting go-getting individualists who want to realize their own "American dream." I'm all for ambition, drive, dreams, tenacity, winners take all mentality. The problem isn't with smart, intelligent individuals, but lazy ass dumb fucks who think that they too can reach the top. What do I mean by that?

In order to accomplish anything in life, people don't realize they have to put in the hard work, they must have some talent, and plenty of luck. Luck isn't something we can control, we can create opportunities for ourselves, but there simply are too many factors we can't control. There are two factors that we can. Knowing ourselves and dedication. The problem with most people is that they don't realize they are just stupid.

Most people are dumb, and the problem with dumb people isn't that they are dumb, but that they think they are smart. First, they have these grandiose dreams that they can be somebody and they will get somewhere in life. The reality is they will forever be stuck at their miserable lives. So they start on these self-improvement journeys, even though they don't have realistic and realizable goals, which will lead them to several predictable and inevitable results.

The miraculous outcome is portrayed in Forrest Gump. It's a movie for the very simple reason, it's a fantasy. For the majority of people, they hold on to their dreams despite the contradicting evidence. Some even think they have elevated to the position of teachers, thus, they can hustle the former group.

This is how the whole predator-prey relationship is set up in the self-improvement market, and especially in seduction forums. If the problem was limited to these fringe groups, life would be great for the rest of us. The sad reality is that this problem is endemic and pervasive among Americans. We all think we will get to somewhere and be somebody. What we don't realize is that we will never get there because sadly, life is like any NASCAR race, there is one (or a few) winner. The rest has to suffer defeat in order to support that one winner.

Yes, we are sickos. Until we accept that the only way to experience the American dream is during our sleep, we have to wake up and take responsibility for ourselves. We think for ourselves instead of subscribing to this or the latest belief system, buy the latest method, go to more self-improvement seminar,... Stop dreaming, start living, and you know what get girls' juice flowing? When they can take part in our passions, they can see we are man enough, strong enough, and bright enough to do our own things instead of being sicko sheeps trying to live the American dream.

Why aren't you dancing?

Rules of seduction

Would we better off with KJ's (and gay dating coaches trying to seduce those KJ's) OR these awkward hustlers?

Ode to the game

The solution...

If you don't have the courage to go out and talk to girls... try this:

Don't know how to start? Join your local lair, and start PM'ing those guys who posted all those FR/LR, and those who offer workshop/bootcamp, just for the local lair members! They might not blow you away with their skills, but they are very skilled in blowing you!

Oh, the community!

What am going to do? Should I take another workshop so I can get that high again? If only I can find more wings! BWAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH!