Ken Lee!

Contrast this:

With this:

Ode to the game

Oh, the community!

What am going to do? Should I take another workshop so I can get that high again? If only I can find more wings! BWAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH!

Sometimes...

Run Forrest, RUN!!!

This dude can plow... watch it again!

What a blast!

This Halloween probably aged me several years! Damn, too much partying and I'm not sure I can handle the 3rd round of parties this weekend. Being here during the winter months can be depressing, and surprisingly, I am walking around with a smile all morning even though I'm dead tired. I can't imagine what I'd be like if I had more booze.

I was going to post something about starting my 99 lonely nights of winter. But I just can't, that would be lying when I am surrounded by so many happy people, going to parties without any community guys,... Ah, life is good!

Keep up the good work, guys! I'm going to take a break and give this a go in a few weeks (again and again)!

Are you kidding me? This is my only way of getting some more attention from guys... gay guys! I wouldn't give up blogging about social retards so easily.

Being a POOOO-AH!

Look at what’s happened to me,
I can’t believe it myself.
Suddenly I’m up on top of the world,
It should’ve been somebody else.

Believe it or not, I’m walking on air.
I never thought I could feel so free.
Flying away on a wing and a prayer.
Who could it be?
Believe it or not it’s just me.

It’s like a light of a new day,
It came from out of the blue.
Breaking me out of the spell I was in,
Making all of my wishes come true.

Believe it or not, I’m walking on air.
I never thought I could feel so free.
Flying away on a wing and a prayer.
Who could it be? Believe it or not it’s just me.

You know the standard song, Wagner's The Bridal Chorus, for weddings. The theme song to the Greatest American Hero should be played at the end of every divorce!

Guess who?!

Credit to Possibility for discovering this... Who could he be?

And for those who still are sucking it up out there... after all these years:

Coming before comfort

What I'm going to write about isn't something that can be used during the initial meet up or early on until you have attraction. Briefly, I generate attraction through breaking rapport, cocky funny, push-pulls, personal stories that describe who I am (you know the b.s. about attractive qualities), and disqualifications. These I still use, only intermittently just to spice things up. But much of my interaction after I entered comfort stage is about building commonalities.

Opposites may attract, similarities are ones who stay together. Most people want to find a friend, someone to go through life together, side by side, partner in crime, into the cold dark night, not be alone, and more importantly, the feeling of not be lonely, in a sense, co-dependency, pair-bonding. To generate that sense of commonality, familiarity, camaraderie, together we face the world that sort of things.

This is why cold reads are so important! The receiver immediately gets a sense that we understand her somehow, and we can start finding out what we have in common. Now, in attraction phase, we have to break that so that we don't seem supplicating like every other guy out there. For example, all girls go out (at night) to have fun, fun in girl-speak means, "trouble." So these stupid banter lines, "you look like trouble!" and "hey, troublemaker!" and variations thereof, work because they imply that we know what they are looking for. That is the first step toward building commonality.

Friends know what each other is thinking, or at least they think/hope they do. The next step to create even a stronger bond is to describe how we are similar, and how together, we can go out and face against everyone else. For example, why are Jews so cohesive? The simple fact is that they feel everyone else is against them. So create that feeling of "us vs. them" and this has to be done in subtle ways... sorry, you have to figure that out! Or you can buy our soon-to-be released In-her game DVD/CD set. So things like nicknames are great. (Yes, that's all you get for free).

Once the sense of we are alike, we are together, and everyone else is against us, then we can proceed with exploring our future together will be like. This is when we can get girls to open up, talk about her dreams and aspirations. Sometimes, to create a sense of emotional roller coaster, yeah, create drama in their heads, not ours, we can talk about their disappointments and other sad memories too. This is how I build that special connection, something that every little girl grows up yearning for, someone to listen to her, who understands/gets her, and what love stories are all about.

Now, do NOT use this indiscriminately, sometimes, girls go out just to get sex. Don't build this kind of comfort, because they don't want this kind of clingy attachment, and in fact, we should not build this prior to sex. As guys, we have to be pushy before sex, girls will be pushy after sex. Use this comfort along the line of pillow talk, the kind we have after sex. Hot girls get this ALL THE TIME from guys who try to get into their pants, so do it afterward. Whereas not so hot girls, they need this kind of emotional comfort before sex, because few if any pays this kind of attention toward them. And the ultimate us vs. them, and combine that with future projection:

L'shana haba'ah b'yerushalayim (Next year, in Jerusalem)!

Being a pussy

Argh, perhaps other people have this problem. I have been going out A LOT lately and I feel like I have this power to befriend almost any group. I blogged about being a normal social and fun guy. I think I'm there. The frustration is that I am not escalating. If I were to take advantage of Seattle this summer, I have to go crazy with pulls and day2, etc. Inside, I feel I have the power, but I'm not exercising it. I need to exorcise this demon.

Not being a closer reminds me of times I'm sparring, my opponent is down or in submission hold, I either don't push it to the point he's tapping out or just complete my combination which will finish the job. In order words, I'm being a pussy. I know I can close the deal so that I can move on, but I'm not doing it. Someone please kick my sorry ass for not committing to the close. I suspect this is the same sticking point of me ejecting from sets before. I haven't been digging through the community literature on escalation, compliance tests,... This pussy demon will die tonight. I have to remind myself, catch and release, pump'em and dump'em, don't keep holding on girls I've closed. Time for fresh meat. Hear me roar, bitches!

Oh, one more thing. Goddammit, David D C&F bullshit and PU101 banter monkey do more harm than good. I'll have to work on connecting and closing girls. I have to keep the eye on the prize, as this is: In-Her game. I'm a winner only if I'm in her. Everything else doesn't matter!

What is love?!

Microsoft has made us less productive by releasing bug ridden programs and unstable operating systems. The best joke I read was on a friend's away message: The day that Microsoft releases a product that doesn't suck is when it makes a vaccuum cleaner! This was from a Microsoftie. Although Microsoft wasn't defanged, it has became synonymous with crappy products. What if the company makes great products, slowly but deliberately are taking over our lives, do we still need to fear it? Despite Google's do no evil motto, I think it's quite dangerous a company has gathered so much data about us and is controlling so many aspects of our lives.

The ultimate evil is the idea of love. It's marketted, branded, and often something we all should seek and strive. This came up in a discussion about this video:

Haddaway - What is Love

We were talking about that special something, that sparkles, that makes a relationship worthwhile. If it was a drug, it makes us miss it in its absence, reminisce about those precious moments. Do we need that obsessive thinking pattern in order to qualify the relationship as being in love? How long can we sustain that emotional fire?!

With internet nowadays, we all can indulge in our collective perversions, in the privacy of our LCD screen(s) and our eyeballs. There are plenty of underground communities that turns a simple indulgence into a full fledge fetish. I confess I check this sick humor site on a regular basis. There are also amazing stuff I've found like the following, I'm not sure who is parodying whom!