The in-her game(tm): Rapport synthesis

What the hell is rapport and how do we achieve rapport rapidly with someone we just met? Rapport is cultivated by mutually exploring ea other’s emotional landscape. As one PU101 instructor, Manish, describes finding wide rapport is like pouring water over a slab of concrete. It will spread and seek out crevices. The widespread of water itself is wide rapport and to delve deeper into crevices is to dive into deep rapport.

The difference between a PUA vs. an ordinary Joe, in my opinion, is the ability of the PUA shorten the meet-to-sex period. This can be accomplished in two ways (both are necessary): (1) Physically bouncing through multiple venue changes, and (2) Roller-coastering through mutual emotional landscape.

The first way is simply taking the lead and go to multiple places within a short period of time with the girl. The second is more difficult. This requires a great deal of soul searching, finding out who you are, what you want, and what is important to you. Once you are comfortable in your own skin and have accepted who you are then we are ready to talk about more wide and deep rapport.

First and foremost, always relate to girls on an emotional level. The way to share that emotional roller coaster ride/journey with a girl is to talk about our past experiences or future projections. The factual details do not matter, but the emotional descriptors are crucial. How you kissed a girl the first time doesn’t matter… However, how you felt when you first kissed a girl is what you should talk about.

Vibing, multithreading, and wide rapport are similar concepts. They involve a brief emotional connection through multiple topics. The goal of wide rapport is bouncing around on that emotional landscape so that we can take notes where to go deeper emotionally.

Deep rapport is when we share deeper feelings through the use of stories or future plans. Instead of going thru many emotions and/or topics, we focus on diving deeper into our mutual emotion(s) and sharing that with ea other. The goal of this emotional journey using wide and deep rapport is to communicate who we are, how we became this way, and where we want to go from now on.

This leads to a critical piece of the puzzle… Identity. As men, we like to focus on what we do that fulfills us. Write down what you would do if you have all the time, money, and success in the world. Within this long list of things you want to do, how would you summarize all those todo’s into a concise statement that describes you. The next step is to work on projecting this identity…