Bootcamp/workshop… a necessary evil?

The 80’s was famous for the junk bonds and the stock market bubble. Back in the early 90’s, there was the biotech bubble; then late-90’s to early-00’s, dot-com bubble, followed by the housing bubble; and now, we are in the middle of the pickup workshop bubble. People have been getting together and getting it on forever. Have we, as a species, lost the ability of being able to connect with each other? Do we need coaches to teach us how to get laid? What drove up the barrier between the sexes?

First, I am one of the older guys who actually had many gf’s pre-community days and I would be the first to admit that I didn’t have game, but I certainly knew what to do without reading books and taking workshops. Second, I have learned evolutionary biology prior to getting into the community. I contend that guys who haven’t gotten laid before, too wussy to get girls, may be nature’s way of eliminating them from the gene pool. Third, I have seen friends who have done the holy grail that many community guys dreamed of doing, taking the girl home the first night, or even having a few friends with benefits, f-buddies,… on the side while they are in a supposedly monogamous relationship, unbeknownst to their gf.
With that background, I was not too impressed with what the community promised to deliver. From the effect it has on certain socially inept guys, I think those guys are better off staying as recluses than to pursue something they simply were incapable of attaining. My opinion on that aside, should people take workshops/bootcamp to get into the community?

My answer is to tell guys first do the following,

1. Find out who you are, what do you want out of life? Every day, what are you doing to get you closer toward your goals? (Do you have the job you want? Are you making enough money?…)
2. In your mind, what kind of girls do you want in your life?
3. What stories/vignettes do you have that allow you to present who you are, what you do, how you live your life to those girls?

If you are to spend that $1.5 to $2k on a workshop, what have you set aside to change your looks, your wardrobe, and possibly, your lifestyle? In geeky terms, think of yourself as your own avatar, do girls see that attractive guy that they want to be with? If not or you have doubts, ask someone who cares about you to help you out first.

After you have made those changes, find a group of guys who are better than you to get you started. Ask for and willing to accept honest feedbacks, yes, there are some guys who get off on the ego trip of bashing you; guys who dare to be honest with you are your friends. Most of all, don’t adopt the dumbass community mindset to be alpha (YEEEAH!) and damn what everyone else thinks. Instead, keep an open mind, try to change and explore outside of your comfort zone; afterall, if you are so good with girls already, why take this leap of faith and expect the community techniques to make a difference in your life?!

If all that fails and you are truly gripped by your inability to talk to strangers, then I would consider taking a workshop. I have seen how it can changed lives, then again, only 10% of people who become good at this, so many fail. The workshop itself may rock how your view the world, but in order for you to be good, you have to work hard afterward to hone your craft. Just as medical school doesn’t make a doctor, neither will a workshop turn you into a bona fide pickup artist. A true doctor takes years to hone his/her craft and through daily practice, that physician will get better, same in pickup. As for what workshop to take… I will tackle this issue another time.