When it doesn't count...

This isn't a huge revelation, but it's something I just discovered recently from examining my past and comparing my experience with others. Guys are often confronted by how irrational girls can be. This would be a total shocker to those guys, but if you look back at your experience and/or others that you know. You will discover that girls don't count certain sexual encounters. I will discuss why knowing this is important in a little bit, after we have examined the circumstances surrounding these special encounters.

The main one being when girls are on vacation; they are away from their peer group and thus, social pressure and judgment. They are much more likely to hook up with random guys. So the extension of this is that well known vacation spots are havens for random hookups: e.g. Las Vegas. Another is when both parties have been in a platonic friendship, what does it take to push it into a no-string-attached sexual encounter? When either party is moving away from the social or peer group. I can do some magical hand-waving explanation using evolutionary biology, but just remember, the best way to build up sufficient sexual tension in any platonic relationship is the fear of loss... or jealousy. The third, and by no means the last, is when both parties have an understanding that either or both are experiencing difficulties in their respective relationships. Then the accidental chance encounter does not count. I can try to explain this using female psychological reasoning, but I don't want to confuse guys. Instead, we can manufacture these 3 circumstances to our advantage.

If you are reading this, I assume you are adult enough to assume responsibility for your own actions... both emotionally, psychologically, socially, and karmically (if you choose to believe it). The first one is easy, go on vacation with girls, things will happen. This can be shortened to taking girls from place to place, away from her peer group as soon as possible. The second one is exploited when guys initially approach girls, from body rocking to false-time constraint, and this can be constructed in such a way that the girl knows that the guy is just in town, or about to leave town. Finally, in my opinion, the most devious of them all, is that even when the girl knows for certain that the guy is still in a relationship, as long as he frames his relationship being on the rocks, not doing so well, and if he can build up enough sexual tension, which I will discuss in the future, the girl will hook up with him. What makes this the best is that there is an implicit understanding that this has to be a no-string-attached encounter and both parties have to be complicit in upholding their mutual vow of silence.

This, my friend, is how so many guys and girls cheat, live AND get away with it. Just because it is doesn't mean it's right, so set aside your judgment. Give this quote by Sir Francis Bacon some thoughts,

Nature, to be commanded, must be obeyed.