Your life is already over before you live it

There's a huge uproar recently over some comments by Dr. James Watson, the co-discoverer of the double-helix model of DNA, regarding the genetic basis of intelligence. For those who don't know much of him, he is a Nobel-laureate, unlike his other co-discoverer however, Francis Crick, many consider Watson as a one-trick pony. He hasn't broken new ground in science since his discovery back in 1953. With that aside, is there a genetic basis of intelligence?!

Oh, one more thing, this is my blog, i.e. a place for me to rant and rave, definitely not a place for any legitimate scientific discussion nor a place for me to give my professional opinion. With all those caveats, we start with the premise that our genes determine much of our physical characteristics. What about the something where the result is the interaction of nature and nurture, such as our longevity. As that turns out, the best predictor of how long we live is also based on how long our parents lived, so again, something heritable, and most likely, genes.

I personally think those who are so politically correct to say that there are more variations between individuals of the same race than differences between races are morons. If genes can determine our skin color, and countless other physical characteristics, I can only guess that our genes also determine our intelligence capacity. Note that I'm not saying one race is smarter than another, because we can bias tests to get the result we want. All I'm saying is that we are different, and our differences are determined mainly by our genes.

How is this related to pickup/seduction? Genetics can play a major role from our looks, intelligence, to our behaviors. Sure, we can learn, but I would contend that our genes already set the upper and lower bounds on our capacity to learn. Consequently, how well we do is pretty much set in advance... Some people are destined to be stars and for many, their lives serve as warnings to others.

This constant need/drive for self-improvement doesn't benefit those who seek it; perhaps a few people do improve, but for the rest, they serve to enrich scammers: dating coaches, teachers of seduction workshops/classes, forum leaders, and in many cases, gurus. Step back and ask ourselves a simple question, if they are sooooooooo successful at what they do, do they need to hype themselves that much in order to sell their service to us?! I'm not even that successful in my real profession (outside of this fun social activity), but I don't feel the need to whore myself out on my own blog.

If we truly want to change our lives, the best way to do it to commit ourselves to do it, be that alone or otherwise. We should learn from those who have proven themselves. And finally, surround ourselves with those who are successful, not those who are still in the same place as they have been in years... which means, avoid forums and those who have been there forever, the longer they are there, they are more detrimental to our success. Those who are truly successful are recognized, they don't need to give themselves titles: PUA, top 10 PUA, ambassador of their tribes, lair president, forum guru, dating coach,... if only they would just admit what they really are: losers. And yes, they will forever be that way, because of their genes.

Anything for a laugh

Allow me to be Yoda-like, you know why community guys fail at pickup? They take what "normal people" do for fun too seriously, which leads to expectation, expectation leads to neediness, neediness leads to creepiness, and creepiness drives girls away!

I have a tendency to see the humorous side of things, perhaps due to my professional training, I'm just skeptical in general. And yes, I'm suspicious too! When I first started blogging here, I made one post that got this one particular guy so worked up that to this day, he's still going back and re-reading that one post. Forward 7 months to now, someone told me he started posting again, and sure enough, there was a hit from his new city to read that very post on the same day of his new post. If there's one thing I like about community guys, I find their inability to change or improve very reassuring. It's almost like telling the same joke to a retard over and over again, and s/he still finds it funny.

Take the case of that social retard. He thinks this could be his future career as a dating coach with a ready and captured audience. Little did he know that most retards that he "leads" also doubt his ability. But he already had the expectation of everyone will follow lock steps with him, thus the second someone stepped out of his column, this retard freaked. He posted inflammatory statements, created multiple accounts, read people's "private messages," tracked anyone who he thought were suspicious in what they post or vote,... This continues from one anointed successor to the next. Yes, the line of social retards has yet to be interrupted and I hope it continues because where will I get my laughs.

Expectation leads to neediness, which he was, and his neediness eventually drove his only girl away (probably with his tears! EWWW!) and then, he had to move away. Sure, there are plenty of excuses, guys in the community are great at coming up with them. Once again, they prove that they don't change, they are great at doing the false DHV, of talking great game, goals of doing this and that to impress girls, and at the end of the day, they have forgotten to be a normal human being, a social creature that can get along with others without wanting something from people. I guess their desire to get laid, get girls, or guys, is so strong, that even they can't think or be straight.

Finally, a better writer wrote what I wanted to say:

"You want to be weird in the best ways imaginable, cool in ways particular to you, and normal enough to get yourself in the door."

Vulnerabilities vs. Insecurities

My previous blog entries poked fun at inner game, because quite frankly, I agree with Mystery, all those confidence building exercises are bullshit. Success in the field is dependent on how hard people work (along with all my previous caveats), if not, they will end up going home to work on their hardness, alone. Another thing I poked fun at previously was the reframing bullshit. I don't have problem with the concept, but more of its perversions by social retards.

Let's clear up a few things first for those who emailed / IM'ed / phoned / conversed with me in person, I don't have problems with what is taught in the community, by guys we all know and respect, this is by no means a comprehensive, all inclusive list: Mystery and Juggler. All my previous rants were directed at guys who are pretenders, hustler-wannabes, yet-another-dating-coach, copycats, plagiarizers,...

Back to the subject of this entry. I notice the main cause of inner game problem stems from guys trying to hide their insecurities instead of truthfully revealing them as vulnerabilities. Start with the approach, most guys are afraid of rejection, as do I. That's why we hesitate. The way I "reframe" it as having fun and being social, so I talk to everyone, she is just one of many girls I talk to. If nothing came of it, no big deal.

Which leads to the second problem, elicitation and counting of IOI's. As long as she's next to us, that's sufficient interest. We don't have to doubt who we are and just accept the fact, at least at our current level, not all girls will be interested, in fact, we should decide what kind of girls we want rather than feeling inadequate about who/what we are. The third problem is the failure to connect, because guys, especially those who got into this because of David D; they are so focused on being cocky & funny, teasing, engaging in endless banterrhea (you know the type, they shout gayass lines like, "YOU ARE SOOOOOOO CUTE!" to each other). In fact, I would constantly test the water but dragging the girl into talking about vulnerabilities, giving her the opportunity to share rather than shutting her up with more C&F teases.

One critical transition point is that as soon as we exchange names, I would immediately talk about something emotional for me recently. Don't be a hater, but I can think of two jobless friends; they bring up their unemployment in their normal conversations with girls all the time, and do you think girls run away? The trick is how they turn what is something all guys are insecure about, especially those computer programmers, these friends of mine don't have any job, and girls love how they are on these soul-searching existential quests! As I alluded to earlier, how I sometimes tell girls that I'm still working toward something greater, not that I am already settled at a job I like.

The three identity questions that I posted here before... Although I have some vague answers for them, those questions are something I forsee myself constantly changing and evolving new answers for the rest of my life, and probably the same with others. Feel free to bring them up in conversation, probably not in the beginning, but definitely right after we have discovered why we should like her (not just because of her look). My level of game has not evolved to the point where I can close the deal that night, but I am quite solid in terms of leading up to relationships if I don't fuck up along the way. I suspect that is due to my ability to show my vulnerabilities rather than hiding them as insecurities. Guys, who hide their intentions, are creepy and girls can tell right away. So if you have trouble opening, hooking, connecting, and maintaining relationships with people in general... ask yourself these questions, do I have something to hide? Am I honest with myself? With others? I'll probably have more bullshit to say as soon as I finish "Radical Honesty."

Guess who?!

Credit to Possibility for discovering this... Who could he be?

And for those who still are sucking it up out there... after all these years:

What this blog is all about...

A friend of mine told me about this book a few months back and I still haven't read it yet: Radical Honesty. Then this article on Captain Jack's blog reminds me of it, and it was a fun read! If everyone was more honest toward each other, then we can skip the bullshit and get back to being humans. This fits well with something I've been thinking about... how people hide their insecurities instead of revealing them for what they are, as vulnerabilities. The former is creepy and the latter is surprisingly attractive, to girls!

The loser mindset

I'm having a blogger block. There are so many things I want to write about, I've started writing a few entries and I couldn't bring myself to finishing them. Blogging interruptus.

For those who have read Joseph Campbell and been captivated by the Star Wars saga, we all appreciate how a young boy grows up to be a super hero. Now with MTV, VH1, Craig's List, and most importantly, seduction lair. I can write a whole book on the 'modern day' hero's journey: of people craving for fame, seeking out companionship online, and ultimately, ending up as seduction forum gurus. I wouldn't want to write such a story without donation, because I have the Millionaire Mindset. But, I don't have a paypal account for you to anonymously donate money to help fund my adventure.

Money is NOT evil. We just happen to have gullible people. I can write about how a virgin, who has no friend, found an online forum, read & memorized all that was in there, and rose up to lead a group of sargers. Or another loser, who is so insecure that he decided to flaunt his weakness until someone poke fun at him, he lost it and threw a series of childish tantrums. Or another virgin, who is living at home, a textbook example of awkward, feels so insecure about himself that he takes on the role of being the leader of, I know what you are thinking, and no, not that at all, deviants. Or another hustler-wannabe, who found out that there are so many wealthy gullible losers, starts turning tricks for the said forum of deviants.

Sadly, I have a blogger block. So I can't post all those stories publicly. I'm so sorry. If you subscribe to my private blog, you can read all about them!

One year later, life of a normal & social guy

One year ago, I was so out of touch with humanity. I was busily doing my "newbie mission" so that I could change to be someone more social, instead, it was more of a death spiral into a potentially life-long loneliness. Thankfully, I have broken free of that silliness and I now have fun being among normal and social people. The one thing I learned, as a friend of mine said it best, "Joining the community is like going to college, the goal of getting in is to get out as soon as possible." There are some great techniques, wonderful ways of connecting with people, but the worst part of it are people in it.

For this Halloween, I'm almost back to where I started before I joined the community. I've been invited to more Halloween parties than I know what to do... there is a readily a group of friends who I can call up to hang out. We have more fun by ourselves than most community guys out "sarging." I don't need to "sarge" any set, I'm just social and talk to people. Sure, I use community materials and routines, not because I need that to interact with people, because I enjoy being a dick just to mind fuck people. In retrospect, I cringe thinking of the weird, creepy, anti-social things I did with community guys. I'm happy they are still at it; they are the living proof that some people can't change. There are very few wonderful people in it. They all are doing the same thing, distancing themselves from the lair/community.

Guys in the community brag about pulls, day2's, ONS/SNP/SNL, whatever as though they need to pin medals on their heartless and soul-less corpse in order to feel good about themselves. They then post these FR/LR in the lair to boast their prowess. The reality is that normal people are having fun, being social, and having more sex than these social retards. The thing is, I should have followed my gut feelings when I first joined, I was reading all these reports and guys talked about these amazing feats of taking girls home... Then I thought back to my normal house mates, they were doing that regularly, so what's the big deal?!

After nearly 12 months of being active in the community, I finally recognized it for what it is, bunch of losers who will never be anyone or anything in life but they are busily seducing each other. Sarges are nothing but dates among guys: awkward moments of silence punctuated with brief interlude of terror/fear of what to do next, e.g. that one guy has to "open a set," grasping at straws to find commonalities among guys who have no personalities nor identities, no sense of fun or adventure, quietly trying to outmaneuver each other to "DHV" to each other while missing the goal of being a normal & social human being, and worst of all, they don't even realize how they have fallen off the social grid with the rest of humanity.

If people want to do Mystery's newbie mission, go out alone and learn to approach strangers, develop the social intuition so that you have the ability of befriending anyone. Either create or participate in many social circles of normal people, i.e. non-community people because community guys are deviants. There's nothing to be proud of to be a "gamer," not everyone needs to be gamed, it's quite alright to have boring normal conversations instead of running routines or conversation tactics on every one. Give up the hope of being a horn dog who tries to game and then fuck anything that moves.

Create the life you want to have, be yourself; yes, just like countless others have said before. If you can't be yourself, then figure yourself out: (1) who am I? (2) what do I want to do with my life? (3) how do I fit in with everyone else? If your answers are: I'm a PUA, I want to be a dating coach, and I want to make money teaching people to be social even though I don't realize that I'm not social. Unless you ALREADY are a big name seduction guru who is doing this professionally, you've already missed the boat, it's too late to jump on this bandwagon, you probably don't have anything new to teach... go shove a traffic cone up your ass, yes, you just might have discovered something you like. We have enough parasites in this world.