What am I wondering this Wednesday...
Have you noticed that when people are preoccupied with one particular topic of discussion because they are having problems, failing at it, and probably overly obsessing about it but would not do anything about it?
Take this example, older adults with constipation would talk about their bowel movements obsessively. But people who don't have that problem, taking a dump is a regular ritualistic part of their lives, they rarely ever talk about their regularity. So for guys who constantly talk about getting girls, I wonder if they are also not getting sex... with girls... so to them, it's almost as insurmountable as Mt. Everest to a blind and quadriplegic climber. Just something I wonder...
If you are wondering why I haven't posted lately, I am busy with work... things I do to pay bills. You know, this whole passive income isn't working out, and my bootcamp / workshop won't be ready for awhile. Actually, I've been surrounded with mostly normal, social, and intelligent people. Without douche bags like community guys in my life, I don't have much to complain about.
Don't worry though, I have made some insights about life in general. How to create a life of abundance and opportunities... the methodical, one-day-at-a-time, plan. Stay tuned!
3 comments:
And yet, here you are talking about community guys on a regular basis.
I really like the underlying message I see in your blog and you've helped me personally in maintaining a healthy perspective on my own involvement in the community. But when you trash the community guys in the way you do, it comes across as really immature and as you putting other people down to try and make yourself feel better, rather than contributing something useful of your own. This comes across even more strange since you were obviously heavily involved in the community at an earlier point in time.
It's a shame really, because when you focus less on trashing other people, your blog can be really insightful.
I'd love to see a post from you explaining how you went from being in the community to what made you finally decide to reject it. When was that 'aha' moment?
What you are addressing is a very deep rooted philosophical belief I have... outside of my professional life, I don't want to assume the paternal role of telling people what's the right thing to do, but rather, what are the pitfalls that people can avoid.
Previously, I have targeted the community and their participants. I think they are going about it all wrong. There are some shining stars, but they are the exceptions, not the typical community guy you would find.
As you may have noticed, I have started blogging about my way of becoming a better, more fun, more social person. I would never claim that my way is the absolute right and correct way... and I am moving away from blogging about what not to do. The focus will be these are some ways to get there.
For what it's worth, I found the community when I was around 23-24, but even then it was only a curious source of information for me. I always took it for "yes, that makes sense, that doesn't make sense" and I'll take this piece of info, that piece of info, but not that piece because it doesn't make sense to me. Despite having bad social skills and being mostly a shy 'nerd' (though with a few good and dear friends), I wasn't gullible and was always brought up by my parents to strongly hold my own values and think for myself -- to not succomb to peer pressure. So I never felt the need to 'worship the guru'. I couldn't care less who the info came from, only whether the info resonated with me. With that in mind, the community helped me 'grow up' when it came to my overly-idealised attitudes towards women and my own self-worth.
The difference I think is in the young guys and the way it's turning into a big marketing exercise today. I went to my local 'lair' meeting once. It really did ram a few things home. More than anything, the impression you get of the community from reading the message boards is VASTLY different from what you actually see. These mental images of what you think the guys in the community are like from reading the forums -- well, they're pretty much useless.
What concerns me about the community are the young guys, the 15-18 year olds who come into it "because they read 'The Game'". It just made me cringe, hearing so many guys at the lair say "I got into this after reading The Game and it just changed my life". Problem is, these people don't have anything to judge it by. They don't have the life experience or maturity to say "This is fine, but THIS is going too far" and they get taken advantage of. Nor do they have the perspective to realise Style's version of the community is just that, Style's version.
What I also saw was alot of what you talk about - the guys seemed to be playing up to each other more than worrying about the women. Or at least, the 'leaders' did. Most of the newbies were just regular, shy guys.
It was funny, for a community where you're supposed to not put women on a pedestal and build your own self-value, there seemed to be a hell of a lot of putting women on a pedestal (or would I be more correct in saying putting "picking up women" on a pedestal?).
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