Life of opportunities

With few exceptions, most of our lives are more like yachts than powerful speedboats; i.e., we are subjected to the weather and the conditions of the water. There are ways we can exert control over our lives such that we can create opportunities that we can exploit. A sail boat might be at the mercy of the wind, but that doesn't mean it can't travel against the wind, it's all about having the right sails and using them in the correct manner. So having good looks might help us get girls, but there are things we can do to create more opportunities of meeting girls. The surest way have money is by selecting the rich parents, and once again, there are ways we can still be rich and live a comfortable life. I didn't say the road to get there is easy, but there are steps we can take that even out the odds against us.

This blog post isn't going to cover everything, but I want to introduce some avenues for people to explore. Take something simple like meeting girls or even having more friends. The community guys mostly focus on cold approaches. Sure, we can meet new people that way... but it will rarely yield much if any result, unless those "PUAs" really lower their standards. This leads me to suggest people should try having more friends instead. That would mean stop running games and trying to fuck every girl within arm's reach. However, we can still be flirty, fun, and social with everyone; the guy who organizes parties, and that people call to hang out, instead of being the community guy who go on forum to look for wings.

But there is more to being the social hub, we have to have the financial support, which means we have to have jobs or careers that can afford the lifestyle we want. In order for us to do well at work, we have to be prepared and can get the job done, which depends on our ability to be at peace with ourselves so that we can be at ease in most situations. In spite of all the job postings, most employers still hire many of their employees from referrals or people they know, but most job seekers are still looking for jobs through ads! Same can be said about how guys and girls meet. That's why we all must have a network of friends in many different career tracks and at different stages of their lives.

I realize this seems very intuitive, but people who are so hell-bent on reaching their goals often neglect this aspect of their lives. We sometimes stop not just to smell the roses, but to see what other flowers are around. So the first skill to master in creating opportunities is not to look for opportunities, but to build a bigger social circle, to have more friends! I'll continue about befriending people, maintaining friendships, and having good friends around. The goal of having friends is, once again, NOT to look or opportunities, if they arise great, but having friends should be sufficient! Purge any idea you have of trying to exploit people, looking for ways to take advantage of people, this is why many hustlers fail, most guys who are out looking for sex by gaming girls rarely get any.