I was ok until you started talking to me...

Once in a long while, I overhear this sort of gems at a public gathering. I find them amusing... guys, with their new found bravery of talking to girls, are now turning into jerks, and worst yet, they think they are soooooo important and significant in someone's life that they get all disappointed when they get that inevitable rejection.

In most social interactions, from meeting new people, to applying to a school, a program, or a new job, they are mostly a numbers game. There are ways we can stack the odds to work for us, but most important of all, we have to be secure in ourselves not to "put all eggs in one basket" so that we are not totally dependent on one event, one person, one job, one school, one program, or one ticket, when we should be focusing on making the best of out of one's life.

When we have enough friends in our lives, losing one or a few doesn't matter that much. Same ideas apply when we are looking for a new career, selecting a new candidate, or even as simple as buying lottery tickets. There is an element of chance in most actions that we take. Looking at this another way, which I prefer because it's, once again, amusing to me, is that if we throw enough shit on the wall, some will stick.

This whole concept of playing odds seems intuitive to me, but I guess for some people, when they are so caught up in the moment, they lose sight of the bigger picture, of whether they have truly explored all options and stacked the deck in their favor. Another is that people would be much happier if they look at how absurd life is and instead of becoming all glum, they should rejoice and enjoy what's left of their lives.

There's no need for Foundations, Transformations, and even The Blueprint. There's no need for Revelation, Awakening, or mind meld / transplant! We simply have to believe in ourselves, in what we do, and find friends we can rely on. If we want to meet girls, keep talking to more girls. If we are thinking of finding a new job, send out feelers, network with people in careers we are interested in, talk to people, and start applying to as many jobs as possible through our contacts. The technique isn't as important as simply increasing our odds.