Seeds of compassion

Thanks to those seeds, we have over 4 days of endless stop-and-go traffic. There is simply one message that I distilled from all Dalai Lama's talks and discussions: work on oneself and be nice to others.

I was having a discussion with a friend regarding a recent episode on Dr. Phil regarding "Pickup artists." I personally find the juxtaposition of those pretty cool guys from TMM (circa 2006), Ross Jeffries (the creep), and "con artists" very amusing. I've been blogging about how most wannabe-PUA's are just wannabe-hustlers. First, they learn a few sales techniques, they tried AND failed to get girls with them. Second, they then use those techniques to seduce guys by using the possibility of hooking up with girls as the bait. Although most fail at the first step and just give up, probably 60-70% of any lair, those who are tenacious enough would make it to step two. Eventually, however, most guys will see through that veneer of bullshit and dismiss them... Some even run away from our little fair city. Finally, even fewer make it out of the second step to work for a "seduction school."

What people don't realize is that the whole point about hustling people is a very demeaning process to their marks / targets / HBs (i.e. others), and even emptier for their own souls. Despite what all those gurus say about how this is a self-improvement process, presenting one's best self, and all other bullshit that is dished to the general public. At the end of the day (or night), guys are trying to get sex from girls. This is the fundamental reason why so many fail; they might not consciously recognize this, but deep down, they even self-sabotage because it's not something inherent within us, the sociopathic psychology to manipulate and use others.

I sort of tangentially touched at this topic that many guys in the community guys feel (and not necessarily true) that girls and/or society have ripped them off and this is their way of getting back at people. That's why they are so eager for routines, techniques, methods, and even pay money to take bootcamps repeatedly to get those skills. If they are truly normal and social human beings, they would have learned to get along with people, and in the process, sex isn't that big of a deal and girls are plentiful instead of going to lairs for friends and out sarging every night for girls. And guess what, the biological process is very inefficient, there will always be guys who look like Screech (from Saved by the Bell) and grow up to be like that creep, and guess what, their genes will be "unapologetically wiped out."

Instead of trying to get something or someone, people should learn to accept themselves for who they are, and may be even their station in life. The better solution is to improve oneself, not necessarily at the expense of others, but be an interesting, a more learned, a more intelligent, and of course, a funnier guy. The next step is to surround oneself with good people. Instead of trying to get girls, learn the social skills to initiate, develop, and maintain friendships. Instead of trying to make money off the back of one's friends, be the guy who is knowledgeable and creative to come up with something new rather than to rehash the same bullshit being promulgated within an incestuous self-loathing community. Truly live the life of success instead of trying to masquerade as someone else, those who keep faking it rarely if ever make it. People are discovering the only way to be successful is to follow traditional paths to success, there are few shortcuts in life and most of them can't be used by most people. We all have to pay our due.