LR: Cruising from C3 to S3

I have to admit that I have experienced many sets fizzling out in the comfort stage. I still have to work on balancing the Attraction and Comfort while directing the interaction to Seduction. One thing I remember, probably Mystery, is that I can't language a girl to spreading her legs so I can fuck her brain out.

Instead of taking her statements at prima facie, almost everything she says can be misinterpreted that she is ready to sex me. The last "date" we were together was so unremarkable that I don't even remember what we did. Then she called me out of the blue, hers was the 2nd of 3 calls from 3 different girls that day (I think it's the mating season again). She wanted to play tennis, I dropped by her place, instead of going out to play tennis, we got into deep rapport, again (just like the previous time we got together).

Right at the lull of the conversation, I moved in and we started making out. Just as I had expected, within seconds, she went, "This is bad. We shouldn't be doing this." I almost started to smile because it's almost verbatim from seduction materials. Of course, my immediate response was to agree, got her to laugh, then we went back and continued. Sometimes I wonder if girls are just clones because their behaviors, even in raising objections during LMR, are so stereotypical.

Another time with an FB, while we were full monty, she said, "I can't have casual sex with you." This isn't the first time we hooked up, we have been doing this on and off for a long time. Instead of arguing and languaging her, I agreed, and we went back to what we were about to do.

I suspect that girls tend to raise false objections, just to rationalize in their mind that they have resisted so that they can't be responsible, be blamed for what was about to happen. Sex is no big deal, it's what normal people with no hangups and comfortable with each other have together.

Attraction vs. Comfort, naturally

In doing my post-game analysis, I tend to be a reductionist and break interactions down based on successes and points of failures. In trying to make sense of what I am learning from different methodologies, I'm more of an integrationist to see common principles that unify the whole seduction process from many different seduction schools.

First, attraction means interest, intrigue, curiosity, not anything more than that, such as sexual interest. Whether we can assume attraction or try to elicit it, it has to come first before we can start building comfort. Attraction is the necessary spark that starts the engine. How attraction is generated or should it be generated at all depends on different seduction schools. Almost universally, everyone agrees that attraction is fleeting. Attraction can be quantified by number of IOIs, passing the requisite compliance tests, and attraction can be amplified by flipping attraction switches while disqualifying oneself early on so that we don't appear desperate.

I think indirect opening is great because most beginners are not just desperate for poons, they are also desperate for approval, or any reaction at all so that we can gauge how well our materials worked. Once people have reached a certain level of conscious competence, then direct opener is much more powerful due to the "natural ability" of the practitioner. I read recent in VA forum (on the sidebar), those without skills start at (1) and hopefully, some will arrive at (4):

1. unconscious incompetence
2. conscious incompetence
3. conscious competence
4. unconscious competence

Many people go through life not knowing how they have been fucking up, which would be level (1). By learning seduction materials, we realize how we have fucked up, i.e. level (2). Then we go out and practice regularly until we get better, hopefully, level (3). Once we have internalized this process, eventually, we become "natural" so we appear to do things effortlessly -- we are not consciously trying, because we are already good.

How is all this related to attraction? As it turns out, attraction switches are relatively universal so they become routines. That's why I highly advocate newbies to use community routines. Even those who claim to do natural game, eventually will start retelling the same stories, same jokes, same "interactions." Afterall, we are unique, just like everyone else!

Comfort, on the other hand, is almost like the mirror opposite of attraction. It takes time to build, it's not universal (not everyone has the same likes/dislikes), and it's not fleeting. How we get at that is to speak in emotional language that women intuitively understand. This can be achieved by establishing rapport.

The sequence is to elicit/assume attraction, then we build rapport. The reality is that it's not a linear sequence of 2 steps. Rather, we have to have attraction early on, then we work on comfort. Too much comfort without attraction will land us in the friends zone. So attraction has to be used in the beginning of any interaction, whether it is a call-back humor, new jokes, C&F, banter,... Too much attraction without rapport will give off the player vibe, we appear not serious, or without depth, we are just all about fun fun fun. However, I've read and been told that amplifying attraction is usually sufficient for SNP/L.

In laymen's terms, I almost always begin any interaction with some brief flirting, then I become genuine, i.e. talk about things that I like and what we both share. As soon as I feel the interaction is too deep, I would flirt again (MM people call this the release, basically C&F, more of the push in a pull-push sequence). This cycle is repeated again and again while I escalate physically.

Existential dilemma

Idle hands are the devils tools. Now that we are here with nothing better to do than to figure out how to get more poons. Am I making the best use of my brief time here? Or am I truly using these social skills to apply more to life? I wonder sometimes.

In tinkering around this blog and finally writing up about myself in my profile, I started wondering. My job is fun; I have the freedom to be creative, to learn, and to apply what I know in ways that's beyond what I thought possible when I was a kid. There is the daily drudgery of office politics and doing the necessary kiss up & kick down. I am at a point when I have started to question if I'm putting my time to doing what is of benefit to me, to those around me, and ultimately, to society/humanity.

Much of my life, I have often debate doing what is good for myself and balance that with my time devoted to helping others. There must be an intrinsic value to be selfless, not sure what it's for and I don't know why I have this need to do it. After what happened last week, I kept telling myself it's the right thing to do and to spend that much of time on her case. In the end, it was very emotionally draining to care for someone who I have some emotional investment. This goes back to why I often stay out of the business of caring for people who I already know. In the case of my professional capacity, I have to be selective in how much leakage I can allow in my firewall.

In the past, I took awhile to get to know someone even through warm approaches / introductions. Since I often seem emotionally compact and put together, I came off as someone who wasn't needy and thus, girls tend to chase if they feel attracted, especially through my ability of getting people to open up to me. With cold approaches however, I learned to elicit attraction early on because I thought I would get blown out otherwise. I'm going to improve my presentation, "looks", so that I can go in and be genuine. Unlike working professionally, I need to appear some what emotionally vulnerable, while not be needy, in a balanced way to draw her in and to bring her along for the emotional journey. I am still learning to escalate physically during this journey as well as some verbal & physical flirting.

I can't wait until next weekend, when I get to try out something new. I want to get so good that when I pull off her panties, they will be so wet that when I throw them up at the ceiling, they will stick!

Self-discovery

For those who work at Google, I would like to learn about their algorithm, of deciding what ads to serve. To amuse myself, I have deliberately blogged about different subjects that interest me and in some ways, give people of a glimpse into how my mind works and what goes on in it. Due to the obvious abundance of posts here about pickup/seduction/dating, Google adsense suggested many ads related to that topic; however, it has shown an interesting twist.

The advertisers for one particular niche market must be using similar adwords and are willing to bid more money for them. I don't know whether those who are drawn to it have more disposable income to spend on this or they are more prevalent than what Kinsey reported. There seems to be an over-representation of ads for "Do you know if you are gay?", "How to seduce straight men (for gays)",... I was starting to question my sexuality, yes, I have a very weak frame! Gay jokes aside, I wouldn't be able to swallow this bite of food in my mouth had I not seen these ads right after I refreshed my page, "Secrets about men, for women", "How to catch him and keep him",... Damn, I'm not that gay after all!

I wonder how much more Google and other cookie monsters know about us than ourselves. I'm quite sure our beloved government is tracking us, but corporations, they are a much bigger evil that I worry about. The constitution was drafted in an era when the biggest fear was King and his henchmen; today, who we are as individuals and what can be profited from us are all determined by corporations. So join up blogger, let this wonderful company get to know you, make a few easy bucks, and show me your secrets!

Dumb idiots

Whether we like to accept or not, everyone is a racist, discriminatory, and as much as we would like to deny, we all prejudge each other to some extent. What Don Imus did was wrong, but he was fired for the wrong reason. I doubt that the CBS executives actually let him go because of what he said, but to use what he did to cover up the real reason, Imus is old and not bringing in the revenue like he used to do.

After the political correctness movement of the 90's, most of these idiots did not get smarter, but they simply don't verbalize the same idiotic thoughts going through their heads. Al Sharpton and his ilks managed to silent those idiots, keeping them dumb doesn't mean they are not acting out their same racist, prejudiced, and discriminatory thoughts. Shutting them up and making them clean up their language have not and will never stop them from acting out their thoughts and beliefs.

There are countless number of reasons why people do not like each other. As long as we can separate and categorize people into groups, people will inevitably find an excuse to be fearful, leading to envy and/or hate,... of different groups.

The solution isn't to shut them up; if we want to slowly correct this problem, I would encourage idiots to verbalize their thoughts, then I can expose them for who they truly are. What's interesting is that many of these idiots, in actuality, recognize their own inadequacies and stupidity, which they would normally blame on others. So they tend to keep their mouths shut now, not out of fear of offending others, but be afraid that they will be exposed for their insecurities. I make it a point to bait them, tell racist jokes, antagonize them, keep tempting them, eventually they will show their true color.

No meat, no heat

The only thing to do is to worship at her feet.

Some of us are more fortunate than others. I have older brothers to teach me that I should avoid supplicating to women in general. Growing up I watched them going out on dates, especially dinner dates, I somehow learned that I should avoid taking girls out to eat in general. This was finally confirmed to me loud and clear with my recent encounter with a dinner whore. Yes, Virginia, they do exist, even in the 21st century!

I normally don't take girls out to dinner on day2. From what I observed, this was a total party girl, my plan was to stew her and kept up the attraction over phone and text. It was working until I caved in. I was bored and went down my list of numbers that I collected recently (bad sign #1). She called back to ask me to join her for dinner (bad sign #2). One thing I did right was to make her compromise on where we go for food, however, I had to go pick her up even though I already ate dinner (bad sign #3). We ended up at this fancy place (30 minutes before closing) for food, but she was too busy talking on the phone (bad sign #4), with another guy whom she will meet up later that night (bad sign #5). Sure enough, the tool came to meet up with us at the restaurant (bad sign #6), who I immediately befriended and disarmed. She was whoring for attention, which I directed toward him instead.

The fun began when the dinner bill came, she looked at me, then she picked it up and handed to me. I ignored her gesture and went back to talking with the guy, he got the hint and left. She went on this tirade about she doesn't pay for guys, etc. She spewed out the almost textbook litany of reasons from Cosmo. I smiled and just walked out without looking back. She was so stunned that she seemed to be plastered on her seat. The waiter was dumbfounded, I simply didn't want to get into an argument with any girl in general, especially her, who at one moment, was a sweet, happy, party girl, and at another moment, a total dinner whore who felt this entitlement that the world owed her. Was she an anomaly or very typical of the trust fund babies?

There's a website where girls post what guys not to date, we guys should have something similar for these dinner whores! The sad part is that most guys, even the self-proclaimed PUAs, would gladly pay anything to shut them up, be gentlemen, or do whatever that's necessary to get her spread her legs, including moving in just to get regular access to the vagine, maybe a puppy will soften her up a bit more! They would rather blame other guys for their own shortcomings (yeah, even that physical kind) and failures instead of examining themselves, how they could have done things differently, do some actual self-improvement, pulling oneself up without pushing others down. Damn, I thought there was going to be a funny punch line...

Oh yes, girls are like buses, if you miss one, there will be another one coming, there are millions turning 18 every day. I won't let the fear of loss get to me, as Yoda said, "Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark SIIIIIIDE!" So "Do, or do not, don't try!"

Selling out and moving here

I blogged awhile back and I didn't have the motivation to continue, until we started our own forum. Here I am, back on blogger again, I will continue to blog, probably more about my life than about PUA techniques/theories. Those who enjoyed the rant'n'rave, there will be more of that too!

Much of the day was running around and following up with the situation I discussed previously.

I also discussed at length with a friend about what do I want out of the community. Apparently, people in the community are just as pussified as everyone else outside of it. So what's the point if all people do is to talk behind my back instead of to my face and help me improve? I think I have enough knowledge to start putting it to use for myself by myself.

There is no need to justify myself or prove that I am worthy of their friendship or whatever. Those who think they are above me, I'll let them examine their miserable lives. I'm in this to better myself, I don't need to bash others to make myself look good, nor do I have to engage in gossipy girlie behaviors, nor childish pranks. I intend to be the victor without victims.