Attraction vs. Comfort, naturally

In doing my post-game analysis, I tend to be a reductionist and break interactions down based on successes and points of failures. In trying to make sense of what I am learning from different methodologies, I'm more of an integrationist to see common principles that unify the whole seduction process from many different seduction schools.

First, attraction means interest, intrigue, curiosity, not anything more than that, such as sexual interest. Whether we can assume attraction or try to elicit it, it has to come first before we can start building comfort. Attraction is the necessary spark that starts the engine. How attraction is generated or should it be generated at all depends on different seduction schools. Almost universally, everyone agrees that attraction is fleeting. Attraction can be quantified by number of IOIs, passing the requisite compliance tests, and attraction can be amplified by flipping attraction switches while disqualifying oneself early on so that we don't appear desperate.

I think indirect opening is great because most beginners are not just desperate for poons, they are also desperate for approval, or any reaction at all so that we can gauge how well our materials worked. Once people have reached a certain level of conscious competence, then direct opener is much more powerful due to the "natural ability" of the practitioner. I read recent in VA forum (on the sidebar), those without skills start at (1) and hopefully, some will arrive at (4):

1. unconscious incompetence
2. conscious incompetence
3. conscious competence
4. unconscious competence

Many people go through life not knowing how they have been fucking up, which would be level (1). By learning seduction materials, we realize how we have fucked up, i.e. level (2). Then we go out and practice regularly until we get better, hopefully, level (3). Once we have internalized this process, eventually, we become "natural" so we appear to do things effortlessly -- we are not consciously trying, because we are already good.

How is all this related to attraction? As it turns out, attraction switches are relatively universal so they become routines. That's why I highly advocate newbies to use community routines. Even those who claim to do natural game, eventually will start retelling the same stories, same jokes, same "interactions." Afterall, we are unique, just like everyone else!

Comfort, on the other hand, is almost like the mirror opposite of attraction. It takes time to build, it's not universal (not everyone has the same likes/dislikes), and it's not fleeting. How we get at that is to speak in emotional language that women intuitively understand. This can be achieved by establishing rapport.

The sequence is to elicit/assume attraction, then we build rapport. The reality is that it's not a linear sequence of 2 steps. Rather, we have to have attraction early on, then we work on comfort. Too much comfort without attraction will land us in the friends zone. So attraction has to be used in the beginning of any interaction, whether it is a call-back humor, new jokes, C&F, banter,... Too much attraction without rapport will give off the player vibe, we appear not serious, or without depth, we are just all about fun fun fun. However, I've read and been told that amplifying attraction is usually sufficient for SNP/L.

In laymen's terms, I almost always begin any interaction with some brief flirting, then I become genuine, i.e. talk about things that I like and what we both share. As soon as I feel the interaction is too deep, I would flirt again (MM people call this the release, basically C&F, more of the push in a pull-push sequence). This cycle is repeated again and again while I escalate physically.