S/NSRI: emotional lobotomy

Prozac: Why feel when you can just function? (Thanks Chemist!) Someone just forwarded me an article that 48% of American population is on antidepressants now. As Chemist suggested, the other 52% probably can't afford it. I would say that taking antidepressant for unhappiness is akin to dosing opioid for pain. The pain/happiness is still there, you just don't care. Is this how we want to live?

Sure, life has its ups and downs, rather than getting at the core of how we go about managing and dealing with stressors in our lives. We have turned our backs and started to numb ourselves, essentially ablating our emotion centers/circuitries. I'm sure many of these patients are depressed, is our policy of dispensing medications whenever they feel sadness the only solution? Emotions are not necessarily good or bad. Love and loss, for example, gives the contrast, the wide range of emotions that we need to experience in order to appreciate each other. By dampening our emotional response, what kind of world will we create?

The best classical works, from literature, music, paintings to sculptures, were created by those who went through those emotional ups and downs. Most if not all of those artists were manic depressives. Their ability to express their emotions, and to lead us through their emotional roller coaster would never exist today. Instead, we just get to nod our collective heads and go thru the same spastic dance moves to the drum beats of doldrums, that we call hip hops, pop country, and whatever else that P.Diddy decides we should listen.

The silver lining though, I suspect is that most people don't and won't know what feeling love is about... to go through the longing, obsessive phase, the insatiable emotional craving, and peaceful contentment. Without these emotional travails, people are much more easily deceived, can definitely caught up in the moment, wrapped up in the temporary emotional escape, and thus, pickup techniques will be so much more effective. Hence, the secret of connecting with women is through emotions, add on the time distortion of multiple venue changes, and in the whirlwind of kino escalation combined with our intrinsic desire for companion to enter into the dark night. Thank you Prozac, Celexa, Lexapro,... who needs roofies?!

The in-her game(tm): Guidelines

Just for kicks and giggles, this blog entry will evolve as I grow (it can be found here: "Selected Articles: The in-her game series"), because ALL game is in-her game! If you are not in-her, you are not in the game... Reader participation is welcome and highly encouraged:

1. Be comfortable in my own skin, because I am the shit.
2. I have only myself to blame, only I can correct my own mistakes.
3. I am busy seducing girls, not men (i.e., stroke my cock first before my ego, see #1).
4. Unless I'm fucking her, I shouldn't be thinking about her.
5. No relationship lasts forever, only diamonds and herpes do.
   
6. I am outcome independent, and I must focus on the process.
7. Sex is no big deal; just what normal people who are comfortable with each other have together.
8. Never argue with a girl; first agree, make her laugh, redirect to something else.
9. Commit to opening the set, follow the Dubya plan: go in, stay in, there's no exit strategy.
10. Go out to have fun, not just to pick-up girls.
11. These techniques are for fun, not for manipulation, especially other guys (unless you are here to pick up guys).
12. Always lead, escalate, subcommunicate: we are going somewhere, avoid interaction quagmire.
13. Guys, who can't hang out with other guys, will never have any girl in their lives. Be guys as described in 10
    

I lied

Creatively. And I did, the time and date stamp on this post is a lie. Yes, I, too, get caught up in the 7/7/7 7:07 b.s. Oh, adapted from a recent movie I saw recently, "Anyone can learn to PU, only the fearless can become great PUA!" Or as someone told me Johnny Savior once said, "Hesitation leads to masturbation."

DaaaaAAAARGH! I just don't have any new profound insight, just go out and talk to people, I connect with some, most I don't. When I have even a tenuous connection, I immediately latch on and take them on an emotional journey with me. Some get bored, most continue. At the same time, I incorporate some kino escalation techniques. Instead of the lame excuse to touch the girl like using Ring Finger routine, I just pull them in, push them out. I was and still am a big advocate of routines, just the field tested, tried and true ones of my own. The days of using others' stories and routines are over...

Act out my stories, I involve them, sometimes doing future projections, and of course, with kino. Another fun prop I've used quite a bit is my camera, I would get girls to do poses, of course, I'll be in those, thus, more kino. I even use camera to open sets; no, not like the creepy dudes who pretend to be photographers.

I improvise some fun, creative things on the fly. Yes, that was a can of redbull in his hands, he was really out of it, and his head was on her milk pillows. I don't have much else. Go out, have fun, be social, just do it, stick to her to get in-her with plenty of kino.

Mo' Mo' Mo Drama, Mo Drama

Good fucking god, how can juggling life be difficult?! Seriously, we just get together to fuck, why the song and dance?! As a friend suggested, I'm ready to outsource from daygame, nightgame, to day2, of course, I'll do the !close, thank you. If I were younger, life was not as busy, like managing multiple people, projects, businesses, I would love to dive both heads into more drama.

The only quiet time is when I'm being authentic, even then, I still get interrupted. Benzodiazepine will be my new best friend, sorry beta-blocker, you are not strong enough to take the edge off anymore. Opioid, you are next on the list, line yourself up, because I'm coming to get you.

How to lose friends and alienate people

What a year it has been, I feel very privileged to have socialized (or attempted to socialize) with so many people who did a great job at losing friends and alienating people, here are a few things I learned from many community guys who are experts at this. Actually, I kid! They are great people... that's why they have to pay money to hang out with "friends" (uh, dating coaches) .

If there is one infectious disease we all should get, it's about being positive and fun. The 4 things that make for a great July 4th:

1. Meat grilled
2. Beer chilled
3. Fireworks explosive
4. ...
   

Coming before comfort

What I'm going to write about isn't something that can be used during the initial meet up or early on until you have attraction. Briefly, I generate attraction through breaking rapport, cocky funny, push-pulls, personal stories that describe who I am (you know the b.s. about attractive qualities), and disqualifications. These I still use, only intermittently just to spice things up. But much of my interaction after I entered comfort stage is about building commonalities.

Opposites may attract, similarities are ones who stay together. Most people want to find a friend, someone to go through life together, side by side, partner in crime, into the cold dark night, not be alone, and more importantly, the feeling of not be lonely, in a sense, co-dependency, pair-bonding. To generate that sense of commonality, familiarity, camaraderie, together we face the world that sort of things.

This is why cold reads are so important! The receiver immediately gets a sense that we understand her somehow, and we can start finding out what we have in common. Now, in attraction phase, we have to break that so that we don't seem supplicating like every other guy out there. For example, all girls go out (at night) to have fun, fun in girl-speak means, "trouble." So these stupid banter lines, "you look like trouble!" and "hey, troublemaker!" and variations thereof, work because they imply that we know what they are looking for. That is the first step toward building commonality.

Friends know what each other is thinking, or at least they think/hope they do. The next step to create even a stronger bond is to describe how we are similar, and how together, we can go out and face against everyone else. For example, why are Jews so cohesive? The simple fact is that they feel everyone else is against them. So create that feeling of "us vs. them" and this has to be done in subtle ways... sorry, you have to figure that out! Or you can buy our soon-to-be released In-her game DVD/CD set. So things like nicknames are great. (Yes, that's all you get for free).

Once the sense of we are alike, we are together, and everyone else is against us, then we can proceed with exploring our future together will be like. This is when we can get girls to open up, talk about her dreams and aspirations. Sometimes, to create a sense of emotional roller coaster, yeah, create drama in their heads, not ours, we can talk about their disappointments and other sad memories too. This is how I build that special connection, something that every little girl grows up yearning for, someone to listen to her, who understands/gets her, and what love stories are all about.

Now, do NOT use this indiscriminately, sometimes, girls go out just to get sex. Don't build this kind of comfort, because they don't want this kind of clingy attachment, and in fact, we should not build this prior to sex. As guys, we have to be pushy before sex, girls will be pushy after sex. Use this comfort along the line of pillow talk, the kind we have after sex. Hot girls get this ALL THE TIME from guys who try to get into their pants, so do it afterward. Whereas not so hot girls, they need this kind of emotional comfort before sex, because few if any pays this kind of attention toward them. And the ultimate us vs. them, and combine that with future projection:

L'shana haba'ah b'yerushalayim (Next year, in Jerusalem)!

Complacency vs. continuous improvement

A few of us who hang out together don't seem to have the same drive and motivation as we did at the beginning of the summer. Many of us have improved quite a bit and we have been doing quite well in field; I worry though, that I'm not pushing myself as much as I did entering into the summer. Then I look around me, I see many warning signs, of people who are not good and will never be good. I don't want to repeat their mistakes.

Those who improve because they have both drive and focus. I suspect most PU coaches who are good because they have both high energy and sex drive. Those who don't have such high sex drive wouldn't work as hard because they don't have the need, and without the high level of energy, they simply can't afford to work that hard. I wonder how much of that is learned behavior because of necessity.

In any case, this beast has quite an appetite, and he needs to be fed!