The skinny on PU workshops

Almost all human interactions are different variations of marketing. I understand the value of money; but yes, I am idealistic. I do believe in doing good for its own reward, helping others without getting any return, making a difference in the world because I want that to be my legacy, being nice to people who deserve my friendship. So these are my caveats lector... on with what I think is a "pickup" and what are the dirty secrets of pickup workshops.

Before I dive into PU workshops, let's set some boundaries on what is pickup. A true pickup is whereby two strangers meet, they strike up a conversation, they found commonalities, they establish an emotional connection, and underlying all that, is an inherent physical attraction for each other. Eventually, they go from verbal to physical to sexual intercourse. A good pickup compresses the time frame between face time to sexy time.

Most typical PU workshops take about 35 hours spanning over 3 days. Within that period, there will be class time, going out, meeting and talking to women. That is certainly not enough to learn anything more than just approaching people and initiating conversation. In order for people to get used to talking with strangers, rapidly finding common interests, establishing emotional rapport while eliciting attraction, do you really think that you can learn all those, along with social awareness to have the correct calibration to know what to do within a span of 3 days?! I would contend not.

If you consider taking a workshop, the expectation should be all about learning how to approach and that's all. Despite all those money back guarantee and promise of individualized training, no one will know who you are, what you are capable of, and where you will be than yourself. Unless you are taking private instruction, where the instructor hangs out with you, feels invested in your progress, you are just another student among thousands that he teaches.

In addition to all those considerations, there are more seduction gurus than diseases. They are like parasites on the community. Who would you consider? Even the big names, in trying to expand and corner market, are hiring crappy instructors and most of them are no better at getting women than your average joe.

My advice is to first, upgrade your wardrobe (yes, first impression and presentation matters), get a "sexy" haircut, treat yourself well to look as good as possible. Do what women do, give yourself a makeover. The next step is to work on finding out who you are, answering those difficult questions about your identity, your goals, your desires, your dreams. Also address your failures, where you are in life and determine the path of where you want to go. Basically, you have to know your strengths and your weakneses, and to conquer your demons. Once you have good answers to those questions and you are at peace with yourself. Then you are ready to meet new people. No amount of money, coaching,... can replace the self in self-improvement.