Why in-her game(tm)?

There is a Descartesian divide in PU of separating inner vs. outer games. Do people who succeed are required to have both strong inner and outer games? There's the David D (like many who came into the community thru his brilliant marketing) who talks a great deal about inner game, having a strong frame etc. Then there are guys like Mystery, who focuses more on techniques in order to get the results. I had a long discussion about guys who have strong inner game tend to be almost delusional, despite their beliefs, they don't achieve much results. So what is the right balance?

I like quantifiable results. At the end of the day/nite, when we cut through the b.s. about self-improvement, becoming a better self, etc. We are in this to get girls. Yes, it's quite a shallow goal. Do we need to take this long detour of self-improvement, developing a strong inner game,... just to get girls? I believe that innergame should not be about girls, it should be about having and exuding confidence, rule #1. It's not about how much girls want me, that belief, by itself, is flawed. I am who I am in spite of whether girls wanting me, my happiness and self-esteem should come from within, not to be validated by how much girls want me. The take it and leave it attitude, or in Brad P's words, "Blow me or blow me out." Or stated in a different way, Sinn discussed about being indifferent.

Then where does that leave us? Outer game goes beyond the words we spit out and games/routines we run. If we don't make a strong impression, yes, the dreaded "looks." Then we will have no chance to run any game. Why are certain guys much better at this than others? Where they improve so much faster, they are the rising stars? It's not because they got game, I would contend it's their looks. Contrary to community beliefs, I'm willing to bet that most fat girls have plenty of self-esteem, a strong inner game than skinny good looking girls. With a few exceptions, would any of us want to talk to those fat girls? Looks, in the case for guys, presentation matters. I noticed a huge difference in results when I changed my wardrobe. PU, similar to having a gf, is a very expensive hobby. Until people have health and wealth sorted out, don't even bother to participate in the game.

The solution isn't to just think girls wanting us. We should think more about ourselves, what makes us happy, no, it's not girls. We need to get our shit together. We have to work on being at peace with ourselves, being happy with who we are, not needing to do PU in order to be happy, it's not: I have to do this so I can move on with my life. There's also a balance, we can't live in a cocoon thinking we are some mack daddies when we are not getting laid; similarly, like fat girls who think they are BBW, when there's no beauty in being fat.

With inner game, it's about being a confident person who is leading a fun and exciting life (rule #10). With outer game, we first have to develop an attractive look. Then we can work on becoming social. These are just stepping stones. Ultimately, we have to push our interactions, rule #9. We will have drinks thrown in our face, we will get slapped, we might even get kicked out of venues. If we don't experience failures, we haven't reached nor explored our limits. It's not about making the ho say no, it's about making her submit, by leading. This is all about being in-her game. No amount of thumb twiddling thinking how girls want us or staring at the mirror admiring our look matters. The goal isn't the how guys say we are good, or how much we can scam off other guys, it is about being in the vagine. Really, it's that simple, if you are not in her, all your inner and outer games mean nothing.

Alanis Morissette: "We'll love you just the way you are if you're perfect."