Pickup intelligence

I have nothing to sell... yet. So I can be honest. Some people are simply good looking, and for them, they will have an easier time picking up girls, probably better looking girls, and more consistently. Sure, there are things that we all can do to improve our looks, women have been using makeups forever, men can improve posture, walk, dress, and how we carry ourselves. Within these constraints, what else can people improve, their "game."

Another dose of reality, how good someone can get game is also limited. Like intelligence, and if you so inclined, to break that down into different categories, is spread across a continuum. Some people are simply smarter than others. Same with pickup, some people will get better and some people won't. Sure, the goal is to strive toward reaching our full potential, but some people simply don't have that much potential. Why do I dwell on the negative? Why do I dash people's hopes and dreams? It's about examining oneself honestly and realistically.

This exuberant enthusiasm for self-improvement is all about padding the pocket of those hawking their ware, be that in pickup, sales,... One thing I hate to see is people getting hustled. Another is people being delusional. There are some people, despite countless workshops, seminars, and buying an endless supply of pickup paraphernalia, will end up where they started.

There are many things we take for granted. Binocular vision for example. There's a critical period during our childhood development that we acquire this ability. If we were to cover one eye in a child during his/her development, for a short period of time, that child may never develop or lose eyesight/vision in that eye forever. Same with language development, there's a critical period that we can learn language, once we have grown passed that critical age, the brain center for that one skill set doesn't get organized and can never be developed. I propose that social skills, specifically, pickup, develop the same way. If people miss that critical period for social development, despite how much they work at it, they simply won't have it.

I've gotten to know quite a few guys in the community. There are some who are social retards, I know because I am not that different from them. And then, there are some who have friends, can maintain relationships, and those are guys who get much better with pickup. This goes back to the critical period hypothesis, those who never have friends, no matter how much they learn and train to be extraverts, they already missed the train and forever be anti-social. They can spend countless hours learning PU skills, analyze situations, and scheme/plan to get laid, but they are condemned to repeating their past behaviors. They become social savants. They might be very intelligent in a very specific set of PU skills, but they are not normal, they are not social, and they might be able to put on an act, but they are not themselves.

What do we have left then? Sure, go out, have fun, be social, interact with people, all these can improve one's social skills, and may be, in the process, get laid. The reality is that people should aware of their limitations, or in a more positive term, real potential. Don't get suckered into thinking that PU is the magic solution to turning an awkward geek into a Casanova, chances are, he will end up as a savant... someone who seems to be knowledgeable, but with absolutely no understanding nor the ability to apply that knowledge. They are the ones, who are destined to be KJ's and forum gurus (or be like this blogger).