Monday, November 12, 2007

Converting cold approaches to more girls

There's a certain amount of thrills involved, and to constantly hone in our skills. There are also ways to exponentially expand our results of converting cold approaches into more girls. That is being social and bringing value to any interaction. How to have friends of girls literally hand them to you... how to expand the pool of women to pick from... finally having choice in who to spend our valuable time.

The reality is that girls always get invitations to events and of course, girls rarely go alone. The trick is to find a few girls who are socially connected, preferably single so they have plenty of guys going after them. Flirt with them, have fun, and definitely be social when I'm out with them, I even enlist them in picking up girls, uh, socializing with other people. They feed off my attention to them, in the process, girls have this inherent desire to feel connected and if we present ourselves as people who can do that, girls will naturally invite us along. There are some caveats though.

First, be sure to surround ourselves with socially savvy guys who are not horn dogs (again, no community guys, or guys who think they are total gamers and willing to bone anything with a hole). Definitely have friends who have values. Second, be sure befriend everyone, including their potential suitors, and the more we push girls toward these guys, the less attractive these guys become. The trick is more than leading, but to plant the seed in how nice these guys are and to sub-communicate their behaviors as needy, approval-seeking, creepy, low value, and thus, they are horn dogs without results. The double-bind is that these guys can't refuse compliments from us in front of girls, but in girls' eyes, they appear as weak because we are qualifying these guys... giving them approval (whether they were truly seeking it or not).

Finally, another important skill is to be able to hang out with other guys. When they feel that they can get girls through us, they will feel compel to hand their girls (they failed to get) to us. So always add value to any interaction. You never know how many girls will start calling you, or some how, magically ending up at your doorstep.

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