Living the life

The compelling and captivating life that girls want to participate. Awhile back, I blogged about the reason that most guys failed to connect with strangers is not having a strong identity, and the ability to convey that as soon as possible to a stranger. Part of the character building process is through socialization... How to live a life that naturally draws in girls... How to get girls to see us again? How do we surround ourselves with happy, positive, fun, and social people?

The foundation of being a man is self-sufficiency, someone who can go out alone, befriend strangers and make new friends. This will take time, it will require courage, especially among guys within the community. The red pill these guys took to unplug from the matrix; they ended up inside a cramp, claustrophobic, rat-infested, of a vessel called the lair that is filled with money/power/fame-hungry societal rejects. The popular chorus among community guys, at least here, is that how this place sucks and they are moving away... the thing is, this false time constraint stopped working after they have been repeating it for over 1 year, and another thing, why bother to flip this attraction switch among guys? Unless these guys want to get with other guys.

When two strangers meet, all they have is being in the moment, what happened in the past is an unknown (so leave those baggages behind), and what will happen in the future has yet to be realized (so make an effort to create something better). Instead of being dissatisfied and malcontent, we are better off if we focus on the here and now. What can we do to make what and where we are better? Many of us improve by making incremental changes, not necessarily drastic changes or complain about our current condition, which will inevitably drive everyone away. Now that we covered what not to do... what can we do to cultivate a life that's inviting for new friends and being the hub for existing friends?

We must have a positive and healthy attitude about life and about each other. We must bring value to any interaction, any type of relationship; by that, everyone wants to be part of something, (why do you think lairs are so attractive for societal rejects?) so find out what is available locally, keep up with local events, call up friends (you do have social friends that you don't sarge with, I hope?), and go hang out and chill. In the process, make new friends and gradually connect people with each other, coordinate events/parties with each other, and naturally, people will contribute and invite us to even more events.

That's the gist of playing the social circle game. Don't be the crazed banter monkey, the weird opinion-seeking guy, the I-statement & open-ended questions weirdo, or the contrived false leader of men (like being a lame "lair president"). Be normal, be boring, be fun, be unpredictable, be social, and be in the moment.