What does 'having confidence' mean to women?

Have you ever wondered why people only get a certain type of girls? Some even turn that into a fetish... in order to cover their inability to connect with other people. That comes down to a problem of confidence. What do women mean when they say they are looking for confidence in men? Guys talk about growing balls, man up,... to do something. All these can be trace down to one thing.

I'm sure many can build up their innergame with various techniques, e.g. hypnosis, NLP,... By far, the best way of developing innergame is through competence. Competence stems from having experience. So having confidence in womenese really means someone with experience. Most girls want to be led and what they look for is someone who has the experience, someone who has done it before, someone who knows about other people (i.e. girls) like her, and ultimately, someone who knows what to do with her.

If you are the adventurous type and talked to a few girls who are different to you... maybe even out of your league. The best way to DHV (ugh, I know, "brag") yourself is to tell her a story, preferably a funny one, that lets her know that you have been with girls like her. Of course, if you don't know what kind of girls she is, then start going through your stack of stories with different types of girls. The goal is to subcommunicate that we have experience with girls like her and by inference, we know what to do with her, i.e., we can lead.

Some ways to have stories are: (1) be open to new experiences, live an adventurous life, (2) by proxy, through watching, reading, and talking with others, and (3) learn to tell stories. Successful guys are ones who don't set their lives to just get girls, guys who do become lair gurus or dating coaches, who are better at seducing guys than girls. The next step is to go out just to mingle and talk with strangers. I rarely ever game girls, in fact, keep the interaction light and fun. Game is really necessary once we are in isolation, then we have to slow down the interaction, where we turn from verbal to physical. That's why kino/touching early and often is important. We don't get the state break as we transition to physical. There are other techniques I'll cover in future blog posts.

So, grow some balls, man up, and start talking with strangers. Get into the mood of sharing with people. Eventually, we will build up a repertoire of stories, routines, and finally, experience with different types of girls. Why travel the world, when we can make girls from different parts of the world, umm, come to us?!