Can you make anyone fall in love with you?

Atthe initial meeting? Most guys go out day in, day out, night in, and night out to game girls. They do the obligatory 3-practice sets, obey the 3-second rule, be outcome independent, and while reciting many other mantras. When the easiest thing to do is doing the simplest thing.

Think back about yourself, how many close friends do you have? Who can you confide to? Who do you want to come eulogize you at your funeral? How many of your friends can you depend on? What I'm saying is that when all is said and done, there are only a few friends we have. Now, think about that when you go up and talk to a girl. If your social circles of friends are small, the likelihood of you having some success with any girl you talk to is proportional to the number of friends you already have. If you have a small group of friends, chances are that only a few girls you talk to will get you or dig your presence.

That, my friend, is called having realistic expectation of success with women. Of course, like most things in life, we can change that. We can start havingsmall talks with more people, shooting the shit with random strangers, totally disregard the outcome, have no intention, and want nothing other than good conversations. Slowly but surely, our social circles will enlarge and we will have more people in different walks of life in our lives.

Although we might not live in a very structured class-society, like India with itscaste-system, there are still some social / economic / (dare I say) racial classesin America. The reality is that they exist, we can try to change it or we can adapt. The problem with many people is that they either blame the system and then give up, or they don't realize that they can work to improve who they are. Most people don't engage in risky behaviors that may lead to success, i.e. like talking with strangers, but they do things that are familiar and comfortable, such as either keeping to themselves, or constantly running community gambits rather than trying something different to see how it works.

Once we have friends in different classes and walks of life, then we can empathize with more groups of people who are different from us, that is how rapport is built. By knowing people in different strata, we will inevitably find our own comfort zone. Just as a 40something guy is very unlikely to connect with a 20something party girl, the same is true with a career-oriented guy being with a punk-rock rebellious girl. Sure, those are social constructs, the trick is having experience with people and we can slowly breach those barriers by having friends who are like that first, before we can start "gaming girls" who are different.