How to bone your friend's hot sister!

Actually, no, that would be wrong! Very wrong (j/k)! Seriously, this is about social circle game. It starts with having a great personality, be attractive to both guys and girls, be the person who brings value to any interaction, always be fun... and there's one cardinal sin that guys commit because they think they are total gamers.

A great personality can be summed up in one word, chill. Sit back, relax, wait for the appropriate time to step up and lead. Give people a chance to be themselves, be non-judgemental, be someone who can appreciate everyone for who he/she is. Deep down, everyone wants to be accepted, they want to feel good for who they are, and have no agenda other than to be the giving person, it's not about supplicating, and going out of one's way to please people, but rather, be the person who is there when needed, be the person who takes care of people when they ask for help. Never ever be calculating, i.e. constantly measuring cost/benefit with friends.

Those are positives, the negatives, i.e. what not to do. Do not be needy, learn how to gauge people's comfort level. Do not have an agenda, do not want things, girls, whatever that may be from people. Be the person who is at peace with him/herself, at ease with others, happy and fun when socializing. Cut out people with drama out of one's life. People who gossip, badmouth, backstab others are people who are insecure and they need to externalize their problems so that they can avoid examining themselves. Change oneself but not others.

Those are the basic tenets of being a fun, normal, chill, non-needy person. Some practical tips to be social, be someone who is the center of activities. Know where parties are, what's going on in town, and be the social hub. Bring friends from multiple circles together. Focus on bringing girls into the social circle instead of taking girls away from friends. At every gathering, imagine that you are the host of the party, your goal is to keep activities going, and lead everyone along at turning points... where to go, what to do next.

Finally, I will cover in more details in how to get girls within a social circle in another entry. The only tip to keep in mind is don't appear as the desperate guy who overtly game every girl available. Just be chill in the group, and game girls in isolation. It's okay to be flirty, but touchy and seductive only in private. Do NOT ruin a girl's reputation, other than her looks, she lives and dies by her social reputation.