Let girls seduce you

One thing I've changed quite a bit since I started. Most guys talk about plowing, keep the conversation going, have a stack of materials, keep going until girls open up. That can work sometimes, the root cause of the problem isn't the girl, but the guy!

There's something about the vibe, the energy, the way someone carries him/herself. When that guy's energy doesn't match or just at the right level above the girl's, he will disrupt the vibe. The problem with most beginners is that they are not comfortable in their own skins. So they either fidget a lot, talk too fast, voice pitch too high, tonality is too monotone, because they have so much pent up energy. One way to release that energy is to acclimate themselves to the whole social bar scene, another is to get hammered, another is to do warm up sets, another is to start making small talks with everyone to get into the groove, and there are a few more. Suffice to say, they need to dissipate that nervous energy.

When the vibe is disrupted, girls can either feel the nervous energy, which they have no idea why, so they might feel creeped out, and the consequence is that they will shut down. Some girls might relent when guys keep plowing, the majority of girls will get turned off even more. So guys have to learn to chill, to relax, be comfortable in their skins, be at ease with the environment, surrounding people in general. Just that alone will help beginners to open properly instead of stacking routines and plowing with DHV stories.

In fact, the more chill the guys are, the more girls are confused and if done properly, with the right amount of tension using hooks, open loops, and qualifications, girls will invest more into the interaction. When I see guys trying so hard to get girls open up, I just cringe. The worst is how they game girls within a social circle, just be intriguing enough, interesting enough, sit back and let the girl chase. There's more to the social circle game, it is much slower, and it requires more finesse.

The money shot is this, relax, chill, be succinct, be intriguing, and let the girl seduce you. Plow less verbally, save your energy for the physical plowing later.