Why life isn't fair...

I've been fascinated by why certain guys like to post so many reports (FR/LR), which can range from a slight embellishment to a total fabrication. For those who try to sell their services as dating coaches, posting reports is one way of advertising, but what about guys who want to garner attention... is it a simple psychological desire for attention or is there a hard-wired biological need?!

Even funnier is how so many old guys (myself included), who have past their prime, still want to go out to get girls. This is almost like we try to relive the youth that we missed... because we didn't get girls when we were young. This article touches up on a few points... Our inherent need to compare, to search for fairness, and in the end, we make irrational choices based on emotions instead of the logical choice that benefits us. There are so many who sacrificed so much, yet gained so little, just so they can appear as the man: the guy who can get girls, among a bunch of socially inept, sexually inexperienced, and many potentially gay boys. Setting aside the brief moment of attention, is there a long term benefit?

Many seduction schools sell their bootcamps as a life changing experience for chumps. The reality is that momentary high evaporates once they go back to their daily anti-social boring lives. Perhaps my experience is an exception, people that I know who want to be social and be good with girls usually end up privately confessing to me that they have wasted their money on workshops and bootcamps, and many went back to get refund. With a few exceptions, those without regret of spending money are ones who want to become dating coaches. In effect, this whole dating coach business is a pyramid scheme!

If there's one thing this has taught me, I have became social not because of workshops / bootcamps, but through difficult changes that I undertook. A similar process that's analogous to this would be weight loss. It's not about joining a gym, participating in a crash diet plan, or reading a book on how to lose weight. Becoming good with women involves becoming social with people in general, in order to achieve this, I became a friendlier person, made many more friends, and I do my best to keep in touch with them. We also go out, have fun, build new memories together, and in the process, we might meet girls. The difficult part is about changing habits, recognizing one's deficiencies and changing them.

In order to prevent people from asking for refunds, most workshops are all about making their participants feel good about themselves after they have been ostracized from mainstream society for so long. So instead of spending money on those charlatans who are out hustling chumps by selling an ALL NEW revolutionary technique on getting girls, look within, find out what is not working, fix it. Once we are happy within, people are more cordial with us and we naturally become more social. No, this is not about innergame, this is about working on ourselves, both inner and outer, because ultimately, this is about in-her game (tm).