Sometimes...

Run Forrest, RUN!!!

This dude can plow... watch it again!

The roadmap to be mPUA

When I read something so inspirational, someone worked hard to be where he is because he has balls... he doesn't have to:

1. shave his head
2. pretend to be a leader of men
3. take pickup program/workshop, one after another
4. learn to be authentic
5. learn to be natural
6. regurgitate advice from others without really any deep understanding
7. use girls to get guys
8. be petty little insecure boy
9. try to rip off/cannibalize his "friends"
10. be a rockstar/surfer/daytrader/stereotypical "character" who gets girls

when he can just be himself, a real man, push himself without prompting or coaching, take actions to get good, rather than paying for quick fixes. Read this and weep, oh right, I doubt that he cries after sex or when a girl rejects/dumps him!

How to sell

I was just reading this and then I started writing a very long comment... So here's my response. Many, privately and publicly, have asked me why I appear so negative... especially in this blog. I can justify myself by repeating the cliche, "I'm not a pessimist, I'm just a realist." The reality is that Nixon was partly right, the silent majority rarely speaks up because they are happy/satisfied/content with their current position, why bother to rise up to defend the status quo.

In order to argue for a new idea, a new perspective on the same old problem, how men meet women, people have to bash the current system, take the red pill, unplug from the matrix. In fact, I am arguing for the status quo. There's really nothing inherently good or bad about how men and women meet and how they start relationships. So someone decided to apply some socio-psychology ideas to how we interact with each other, then marketeers came in to up-sell these simple ideas. Then these "pickup blogs" sprung up like weeds to create this feeding frenzy, like everyone and anyone can become a pickup artist, and of course, we all can get any girl anywhere at anytime.

The truth is... sure, we can talk to MANY MORE people and have sex with a much bigger population (for some "Captain Ahab Poo-ah" they they do hook up with bigger girls). However, what they don't tell you is, that's how it has always been. Girls go out, girls get drunk, girls hook up with random strangers, and if you keep talking with enough girls, you will go home with some of them. Are all girls like this? Not really. Since this is a numbers game, I have met some wonderful people, some girls who can be potential life-long mates, and some, I am ashame to admit to.

Back to pessimism, when someone wants to us to buy the latest and greatest self-improvement product, they of course have to point out weaknesses, flaws, what is wrong/bad about our current situation so that they can provide the solution to this problem. (In re-reading my entry, I realized that someone already pointed this out to me awhile back... it's the basic structure of advertising) This is the basis behind most products and most dramas (you know, movies, superheroes,... which I learned in middle school). The best way to solve any problem, isn't to buy more products, sign up more workshop/bootcamp, when the solution is really very simple, as a friend pointed out today, start doing. Just like the Nike catchy slogan, Just Do It. I prefer: Git'r'done!

We can spend an eternity dwelling on a problem, try to determine its etiology, monitor its progress, when all we have to do... is to start doing. We had a long conversation about inner game over the weekend, the problem is that people don't take the first step, get away from mentally masturbate over something and take steps to solve the problem. Most successful people are do'ers, they don't sit around and figure out ways to change their conditions, they act, they work, they make mistakes, they correct their mistakes, and they eventually improve.

This is the reason I keep going on and on about the negative aspects of the community. I want to point out that these are caution signs that we all can avoid. Go out there and start talking with people, you will hear great stories, you'll get some pointers from people, make some new friends, you will be happier than keep reading these pickup blogs and especially this "pessimistic" blog. The more we focus internally, we will conjure up more demons to wrestle.

Self-acceptance, quit trying to seek validation from people, (you know the saying, be yourself) this is really about being a normal social human being... unless, of course, you have something to sell, then it's inherent that you have to seek validation from others, and in the community, it's all about stroking other guys. The world isn't as bad as people say... it's quite nice. I'm glad I'm alive to enjoy this, because I have nothing to sell. Sorry.

A belated happy Thanksgiving!

I have much to be thankful for this year. Most of all, specifically related to having fun & being social, I feel I am part of humanity again... by being out of the community. Which reminds me...

During my first year in the community, I accidentally met up with some guys who were in the community about 3-4 years ago at a party. Although they seemed relatively normal, there was something game-y about them and somehow, I figured out they were at one time, in the community. We started talking and they told me about their trip to Hawaii, where they accidentally crossed path with TD and helped him teach a bootcamp. For some reasons, they never discussed why they were not active in the local community and they didn't offer much advice, unlike many "forum gurus." They seemed to be relatively happy and that was something that festered in the back of my head, which caused me to slowly question why seemingly normal people not in the community.

Then the onslaught of market droids in promoting one product after another, that's when I realized that we have been captive audience of an expanding niche market. Furthermore, the "lair/community guys" were mostly socially inept guys. How this came about was during my conversation with another friend recently, about why certain people who don't make good friends.

Most community guys don't make good friends, not simply because they are needy, but they are selfish horny pricks. Part of being friends is participating in a two-way process... For example, community guys would save up money for bootcamp (one after another), but they wouldn't go out and spend money with other guys. Another is that they would try to score simple things, like rides to bars/clubs, from each other. The worst part is when I introduce them to my non-community friends, be they were girls or guys, these community chodes would run game on them; even after I explicitly warned them that they do NOT run community materials on people I know.

Girls want to be picked up; or in their lingo, they want to meet someone special when they go out. But they certainly don't want to be an experimental lab animal in helping these guys master their games. There are so many ways to relate with people besides running games. These community dumbasses also apply silly alpha-male bullshit with each other in lair politics. In the game of life, profession,... some of us may not be experts at socializing with women, but we have played our share of office politics and other cut-throat bullshit to be where we are today. Playing these sorts of silly games with other guys is pathetic at best.

There are so many ways to be friends that I can't begin to cover them all, I can only point out of a few things of what not to do. I haven't socializing with lair guys lately, what I can write about is from my vague memory, and I'm sure they have figured out new ways to screw each other instead of girls. Yeah, I know... I write at least once per week about why people should stay away from community guys.

What does 'having confidence' mean to women?

Have you ever wondered why people only get a certain type of girls? Some even turn that into a fetish... in order to cover their inability to connect with other people. That comes down to a problem of confidence. What do women mean when they say they are looking for confidence in men? Guys talk about growing balls, man up,... to do something. All these can be trace down to one thing.

I'm sure many can build up their innergame with various techniques, e.g. hypnosis, NLP,... By far, the best way of developing innergame is through competence. Competence stems from having experience. So having confidence in womenese really means someone with experience. Most girls want to be led and what they look for is someone who has the experience, someone who has done it before, someone who knows about other people (i.e. girls) like her, and ultimately, someone who knows what to do with her.

If you are the adventurous type and talked to a few girls who are different to you... maybe even out of your league. The best way to DHV (ugh, I know, "brag") yourself is to tell her a story, preferably a funny one, that lets her know that you have been with girls like her. Of course, if you don't know what kind of girls she is, then start going through your stack of stories with different types of girls. The goal is to subcommunicate that we have experience with girls like her and by inference, we know what to do with her, i.e., we can lead.

Some ways to have stories are: (1) be open to new experiences, live an adventurous life, (2) by proxy, through watching, reading, and talking with others, and (3) learn to tell stories. Successful guys are ones who don't set their lives to just get girls, guys who do become lair gurus or dating coaches, who are better at seducing guys than girls. The next step is to go out just to mingle and talk with strangers. I rarely ever game girls, in fact, keep the interaction light and fun. Game is really necessary once we are in isolation, then we have to slow down the interaction, where we turn from verbal to physical. That's why kino/touching early and often is important. We don't get the state break as we transition to physical. There are other techniques I'll cover in future blog posts.

So, grow some balls, man up, and start talking with strangers. Get into the mood of sharing with people. Eventually, we will build up a repertoire of stories, routines, and finally, experience with different types of girls. Why travel the world, when we can make girls from different parts of the world, umm, come to us?!

Respect

Many have said but rarely ever adhere to, "Bros before hos." I am honor to be among a super secret elite group of sour grapes, who are definitely intermediate level PUAs, even though they seem disturbed, very disturbed. But we are still working on getting the solid 8's. And if you are not a local, you'd wonder WTF I've written.

Where we go in life is important, who we bring along is even more important. Awhile back, I've blogged quite a bit about having fun and being social. The result of that is to build up a circle if not more of friends who are the same way. Sure, life is so much more enjoyable when there is a group of people who are there along life's journey. Who our friends are reflections of different aspects within us... So if you wonder who you are, look around at who are there beside you.

There are some transient friends of convenience. I would group colleagues from work into this category. We might get along at work, but we don't socialize outside of work. There are also who we work together, watch out for each other, and finally, go out and socialize together. These are friends who we continue our friendships even after we parted ways at work. For this to happen, we must cultivate our friendships on a deeper set of values... not just sarging buddies of convenience, i.e. because we don't have girls to hang out to be our "pivots."

I'm not proud to admit, at one point in my life, I was quite active in the community. I attended countless meetings, met up with master PUAs on their road shows, and even went out with some of them. Even more embarrassing was that I actually "sarged" with some social retards, we have done our shares of creeping girls out; but I have grown out of that. It was like my awkward phase of social adolescence. When my social face had countless zits, I was wondering what was happening inside me, and why I had trouble fitting in. Then I came to the realization.

I had more than the one main goal of getting girls. Sure, sex is fun, and sex is definitely more fun that "sarging." I realized that I was socially awkward because I was uncomfortable with who I am. Until I started accepting, then liking who I am and will be, I could not deal with the external social world. The second part was to align myself with relatively social people, who also have that part of their lives sorted out. They are comfortable with themselves and they are not afraid of being who they are. The next step of being with each other had a synergistic effect on our level of relating, socializing, and finally, drawing in other people.

Part of being a human being is to align ourselves with great friends, note that I didn't write being a leader of men. We are not there to "social proof" each other, but rather, social proof arises naturally out of we enjoying each other's company and having fun together. When I see pack of wannabe-PUA's (even ones at the intermediate level) constantly sharking any venue, part of me dies because I truly feel sorry for them. They don't bring something of value, friendship, to the group. So after you have done the requisite among of "sets" alone by yourself, and you can befriend almost any group of strangers and finally, cultivate a great cohesive group of friends. You are ready to go out and take over the venue... This is the first step toward World Domination.

If you still wonder what the first paragraph means, I might explain privately... Just as they were forwarded to me privately.

My personality

I've been busy with work and umm, girls. This is the result of a recent personality test that I took:

1. Flexible temperament: Nothing seems to bother you - you sail through life crisis free. It's not that your life doesn't have its ups and downs, it's just that you handle everything without unnecessary drama and antics. You approach each day fresh, not worrying about yesterday or tomorrow. You are confident that you can handle anything that comes your way and experience has shown that you are absolutely right about this.
2. Simple interests: You are continually pursuing a simpler and less complicated life - you don't allow yourself to fall victim to all of the "should do's" that society continually bombards you with. You are thoughtful about your life choices and think in terms of yourself, others and the world in which we live. You have a great sense that we are part of something much bigger and we must be good to others, if we want others and the world to be good to us.
3. Adventurous amusement: It's a good thing that you are filled with energy and ambitions (that others sometimes find exhausting) because you're continually looking for a new adventure and exciting experience. You struggle with a continual feeling of restlessness which constantly pushes you to the next level of excitement. Once you have accomplished one thing, you are eager to accomplish something more exciting, riskier and distinguishable.
4. Physical passion: You are a cuddle bug - from a warm hug shared with your best friend to steamy sex with your partner, you enjoy every bit of human contact that you can get. You demonstrate your love for others most fluidly through physical one-on-one contact and you feel the most loved when you are being touched. You feel disconnected when you are physically isolated from others. You're a people person and a lover of all things human.

Others have taken the same test and they didn't fit their test results at all... Oh well. Mine described me accurately.

Cooking under pressure

Many stressors in life are created internally. The whole approach anxiety is basically mental drama that people conjured up because of something else. Remember how you made friends in kindergarten? How is meeting a stranger any different now?! Most interactions go nowhere and that's quite alright... what bothers me lately is that day in and day out interaction, that gradually builds and sneaks up on me. I am having a difficult time dealing with the emotional impact of it.

The journey that I started over 1 year ago has gotten me quite far considering how much of a social retard I still am. From what I see, the effort of keep going pays off eventually. Beware of this...

Where am I now and where do I want to go... in terms of "pickup." I've been wrestling with these questions the past few days and I don't have any good answer. I'm happier than I was this time last year. I'm almost as happy as when I was in a very fulfilling romantic relationship previously. Partly, I am glad that I don't have to deal with those man-on-man dramas. Partly, I am relatively happy with my progress in field. Partly, I am juggling with some relatively successful relationships. The difficulty is answering the question: what is enough?

Don't be stupid

Even if I know Sinn's real name, which I do, why would I post it on here? I'm not going to divulge anyone's identity on here, I have done my best to conceal the real life identities of people (I know and those I don't), even those whom I find abhorrent. Stop doing silly searches and trying to mine for personal information about people here. Sheeesh. For all you know, what I write here might be completely fictional, don't bother trying... this is my blog, not the New York Times (or TMZ).

Converting cold approaches to more girls

There's a certain amount of thrills involved, and to constantly hone in our skills. There are also ways to exponentially expand our results of converting cold approaches into more girls. That is being social and bringing value to any interaction. How to have friends of girls literally hand them to you... how to expand the pool of women to pick from... finally having choice in who to spend our valuable time.

The reality is that girls always get invitations to events and of course, girls rarely go alone. The trick is to find a few girls who are socially connected, preferably single so they have plenty of guys going after them. Flirt with them, have fun, and definitely be social when I'm out with them, I even enlist them in picking up girls, uh, socializing with other people. They feed off my attention to them, in the process, girls have this inherent desire to feel connected and if we present ourselves as people who can do that, girls will naturally invite us along. There are some caveats though.

First, be sure to surround ourselves with socially savvy guys who are not horn dogs (again, no community guys, or guys who think they are total gamers and willing to bone anything with a hole). Definitely have friends who have values. Second, be sure befriend everyone, including their potential suitors, and the more we push girls toward these guys, the less attractive these guys become. The trick is more than leading, but to plant the seed in how nice these guys are and to sub-communicate their behaviors as needy, approval-seeking, creepy, low value, and thus, they are horn dogs without results. The double-bind is that these guys can't refuse compliments from us in front of girls, but in girls' eyes, they appear as weak because we are qualifying these guys... giving them approval (whether they were truly seeking it or not).

Finally, another important skill is to be able to hang out with other guys. When they feel that they can get girls through us, they will feel compel to hand their girls (they failed to get) to us. So always add value to any interaction. You never know how many girls will start calling you, or some how, magically ending up at your doorstep.

Peeling off the layers

Getting girls at the bar, such as pulling them home, and even having sex with them that very night, is not a big deal! At any given bar, doesn't matter whether it's classy or not, there are plenty of girls who are out for sex... It's a numbers game. If we talk to enough of girls in there, lower our standards enough, we will get some that night. Is that worth it? Do we want to go out hunting night in and night out, every week? Or are having relationships (be they monogamous or not) more fulfilling?

Awhile back, I posted questions about identity and our purpose in life... those are the questions we all struggle with throughout our lives and raising those questions seems to trigger an almost universal response of, "OMG, someone who is going through the same turmoils as me." Sure, there are exceptions. For many people, they are like onions. They take time to peel through one layer after another, but there are some core questions that get at that very quickly. At the risk of sounding like a Mystery fan boy, his statement, "I didn't get an instruction book on how to live my life." It is vague enough, but also insightful enough to trigger that same universal OMG response.

Even though I use many community routines/techniques, I wouldn't consider myself a pickup artist, and I don't do pickup. What I do, however, is being social... being a normal human being. I don't belong to a special elite group of social retards. In fact, I make my interactions with girls so smooth, so fun, that they don't remember me how I #closed them and we might not have sex the same night we met, but we will keep on having sex for months afterward. One is to avoid state break and the other is strengthening that core emotional connection.

The way I avoid state breaks is to multi-thread. Stories stack on top of stories, conversational threads weave into another but they rarely finish, avoid the dreaded question train that goes after each bullet point in a resume, and always escalate, but not in a predictable way. Once girls accept that the interaction is like an emotional roller coaster, they will accept that they don't know what's coming because everything is sort of random and yet, but they continue to feel safe with me. That's how I build trust and comfort. Ways to create that randomness, and thus causing confusion, is to combine different techniques, push-pull, cat-string theory, microcalibration, rolling off, yin-yang,... "Bullshit baffles brain," as Lovedrop described.

Just as people are like multi-layered onions, conversational threads should be a tangled mess like a Gordian Knot, and interactions should allow us to connect at multiple emotions. Sure, there are simple routines to pump up buying temperature to overcome resistance or get girls to past compliance tests, and of course, sex is the final compliance test. What I am getting at is that each interaction should have this natural flow to it and routines can keep the inertia going, but much of it is improvisation, many market that as natural game, I personally prefer to call it organic game (tm). Think of trees, I defy anyone to find two identical trees, so interactions can be group into similar species, but they are rarely identical even though they have similar components, roots, leaves, branches, flowers, and seeds. After all that bullshit, even onions grow from seeds. (And yes, organic game is a subset of In-her game; for the humor impaired, it's a joke!)

Why stay away from community creeps?

For many lonely lovable losers, myself included, community seemed to be a way out. I thought I found the road to salvation, pulling and !closing HB9+ on a weekly basis. Unlike many in the community, without a career or hating their jobs, I like mine and wouldn't give it up for, hold on, just wait, get this, becoming a dating coach! The reality is quite different.

Let me recount some embarrassing stories while I was in "the community." Sorry, there were absolutely no spectacular pulls, no lays, no girls, nothing until I left "the community." Oh, stories... I was out the first time with a self-proclaimed top 10 PUA in the local community. He was walking around the club ALL NIGHT LONG with a sign "The S***** Lair" on his back. I thought it was a deliberate sign for other newbies to go meet up with him. As it turned out, he told girls that he's a Pickup Artist from THE LAIR, of course, one girl made a sign, taped on his back, tooled him, and allowed him to walk around like that. He couldn't even handle some light teasing from this girl later on that night. Did I mention he also told us that he was dating a stripper at the time? And guess where we found girls that he "dated," those girls are regular posters on Craig's List casual encounters.

Another community guy, I was doing the Mystery Newbie Mission with him. Now, this guy (at that time) already took 3 workshops / bootcamps (that he admitted to); he was into his 2nd or 3rd year within the community... and he was doing the Newbie Mission for the Nth time. I was stupid enough to think that it could change me. In the process, I met some normal people, they pulled me aside and asked me why I was hanging out with a weirdo, and countless times, girls would ask me if I'm gay (by association). Recently, I accidentally socialized with his former co-workers. They recounted stories of how anti-social he was at work while he (on the other hand) bitched about his shitty work conditions, and after they found out that I knew him, guess what they asked me, that's right, "Is [he] gay?" And yes, he's still trolling our local forum for newbies... to be, yes, his "wings."

Another self-proclaimed guru of the local community, he even formed his own exclusive fight club, created a pickup company, corralled together a few guys and even taught a few bootcamps. His students, to this day, are still haunting the same clubs/bars without any demonstrable results. His former partners abandoned him, he has since tucked tail and moved away (or so people told me). When I mocked him in our forum, his friend called him out, and so did many others who talked about him behind his back, he sent his minions to AMOG me! Where is he now? Where are his girls now? Where has he gone now?

If you think this is a phenomenon among the local community guys, a well-known pickup company came to town to teach a bootcamp and of course, the local lair president who is an aspiring dating coach (another addict to workshops & bootcamps) got to represent and assisted in coaching. Guess what happened, more than half of those students asked for refund. It would be easy to dismiss that, oh, this is a local city thing, as it turns out, I've talked with other guys, they have taken workshops at other cities, they too have asked for refunds. By the way, there's this silly post I made on here, apparently, it got to him so much, that whenever he comes to read this blog, he would read that entry. Again, so much for having experience, being alpha, authentic, leader of men, and whatever else.

There are more embarrassingly funny stories. When did I finally improve? When I stopped hanging out with these community social retards, all I did was that I went out by myself for 2-3 weeks. I made new friends, they invite me to events, we plan events together, and because I swallowed the red pill and unplugged from the community. I think there's more to learn from the community, but I would limit myself to the well known "gurus" and their "teachings"; but definitely NOT from "community guys." I will blog about what works and what doesn't based solely on my own experience.

Beautiful simplicity

Thank you for your emails about how my life is without the community, I'm doing great not hanging out with community guys. Sure, I don't open as many sets and I don't get that many spectacular blow outs, repetitive rejections, or creeping girls out. I am so much happier, I have friends who are fun, living exciting lives, and socially well-adjusted. Funny enough, I also have plenty of female friends who come out to party not to "sarge." When we are out, we play pranks on each other... Other girls get involved, we don't need to run game because girls actually open us wondering what's going on. Unlike the countless community guys standing around observing us, as Mystery said, be the observed... not the observer.

The best part of being socially connected is that I get invitations to parties, events, and other activities without having to pay. No cover, no ticket to buy, and girls are so friendly without the awkward exchange of contact info. Better yet, there are no eager, horny, needy, and creepy community guys trying to come in. Being in a relatively small (big) city, girls told me countless stories about how many community guys failed to get them. This is usually after sex, when I debrief them and they ask me how I know those so-and-so weirdos. The sad truth is that most self-proclaimed PUAs (and community guys in general) don't get laid. And girls they have full montied are fat, culturally inept, mentally handicapped, have faces only their mothers would love, or any combination of above.

The better solution is to get out of the cesspool of social retards that many called the community, befriend with normal people, go out and be social. You will find your life much more rewarding without dealing with the general neediness of guys, you might even discover humor, something that would make people laugh their guts out without even faking a smile. Best of all, you won't be tempted by those gay gurus trying to get into your ass and your wallet at the same time. It's so great when people are up front with their intentions and we don't need each other for anything... we just be with each other because we are fun.

Unplugged from the community

The community is the matrix. Many in the community talk about society as the matrix and how joining the community is their moment of taking the red pill. The reality is that the community itself is the matrix, not the other way around. The matrix is powered by the hopes, dreams, and fantasies of these lovable losers. The best thing anyone in the community can do for himself is to leave the community once he has gotten the approach anxiety under control.

I've been discussing with friends about who get results, as in having sex regularly like normal people, the list of those in the community is short, quite short. In fact, I have a suspicion, the next scandal that will bust open this community will be similar to what happened to the Catholic Church in the last decade, that most guys in the community are closet gays. How any guy can develop the fear of girls is beyond me... Didn't we used to play with girls on the playground when we were kids? Didn't we grow up with friends, both guys and girls? Don't we live with and work with girls? How guys become such worshipers of women, I don't get it. I seriously didn't bother to rank girls on a 1-10 scale until I joined the community. Before, I had a very simple criteria, she's either fuckable because I'm attracted to her or she isn't; instead, guys in the community set up these artificial barriers so that they can measure, compare, compete with each other. Are they really that hard up for validation from each other, loveable losers?

Slowly but surely, I have gotten to know many guys in the community, I discovered how miserable they really are. They bitch and whine, but never take action to change their lives. They are obsessed with competing with each other, not in terms of actually getting girls, but more for attention from guys. Worst yet are those delusional enough to think that they can make money teaching people, to change lives of others, when they haven't done anything to improve their own. Of course, in order for them to maintain their reputations, they would embellish and even write up fake reports in order to garner attention (and again) from guys. They are more interested in dating, uh, sarging with each other than hanging out with girls! I mean, really, what are we in this for... more men or women?

At this point, I realized that I was better off going out alone, meeting people and befriending normal people. That's when I rediscover what the real society is like. There's no point in running game. I simply gave up gaming people. People started to invite me part of their groups, because I don't want anything from them, their attention, their approval, their attraction/IOI, their girls, etc, instead, I bring value, I am fun and social and connected. I'm also not so hard up about sex because it comes naturally whenever and wherever, without running awkward gambits. Yes, community routines work and I have fun running them, but in order to run them successfully, we simply can't be such try-hards.

For those who are still in the community after all these years and for those who obviously have no game, but are still trying to pretend to be dating coaches. Good luck! Because many people are wising up to their tactics in seducing guys. There will be more products, more techniques, more methods, more coaches, what we need is what we already have. The only way to get good is to have experience, and experience comes by going out, interacting with people, don't care about results, if and when something happens, great... otherwise, it's another fun night out with friends. You do have "friends" not just another newbie guy you met off the lair?!

Productivity

Laziness is a great virtue and I try my best to work as little as possible. Take the mouse for example, I think it's one of many productivity killers, and touchpad isn't far behind. Why? Because for a touch typist like myself, I have to lift my hand, grasp around for the mouse, move the pointer to the desired location, and then move back to my keyboard. The more efficient way is to keep my dominant/mouse hand on the keyboard and trackpoint is the most efficient way of moving the pointer around. My recent compromise on desktop computers is to use my trackball, then I know exactly where my pointer moving widget is without looking for it; the additional benefit is that a trackball doesn't take up the same amount of space as a mouse with its mousepad.

Along the same line, I use gmail and greasemonkey together, and I found gmail macros; it lets me navigate and perform various tasks inside gmail without using my mouse. I was just complaining to a friend of mine today after gmail upgraded to the new version.

It's just sooooo hard, you know, I want to quit my "miserable" job and do my 4-hour work week, be a dating coach every other weekend. Can someone make me dinner? Don't forget to pick up my dry cleaning too! While you are at it, bring a few girls home... so, you know, I don't have to go out and talk to girls. Living is so difficult! HA!

Living the life

The compelling and captivating life that girls want to participate. Awhile back, I blogged about the reason that most guys failed to connect with strangers is not having a strong identity, and the ability to convey that as soon as possible to a stranger. Part of the character building process is through socialization... How to live a life that naturally draws in girls... How to get girls to see us again? How do we surround ourselves with happy, positive, fun, and social people?

The foundation of being a man is self-sufficiency, someone who can go out alone, befriend strangers and make new friends. This will take time, it will require courage, especially among guys within the community. The red pill these guys took to unplug from the matrix; they ended up inside a cramp, claustrophobic, rat-infested, of a vessel called the lair that is filled with money/power/fame-hungry societal rejects. The popular chorus among community guys, at least here, is that how this place sucks and they are moving away... the thing is, this false time constraint stopped working after they have been repeating it for over 1 year, and another thing, why bother to flip this attraction switch among guys? Unless these guys want to get with other guys.

When two strangers meet, all they have is being in the moment, what happened in the past is an unknown (so leave those baggages behind), and what will happen in the future has yet to be realized (so make an effort to create something better). Instead of being dissatisfied and malcontent, we are better off if we focus on the here and now. What can we do to make what and where we are better? Many of us improve by making incremental changes, not necessarily drastic changes or complain about our current condition, which will inevitably drive everyone away. Now that we covered what not to do... what can we do to cultivate a life that's inviting for new friends and being the hub for existing friends?

We must have a positive and healthy attitude about life and about each other. We must bring value to any interaction, any type of relationship; by that, everyone wants to be part of something, (why do you think lairs are so attractive for societal rejects?) so find out what is available locally, keep up with local events, call up friends (you do have social friends that you don't sarge with, I hope?), and go hang out and chill. In the process, make new friends and gradually connect people with each other, coordinate events/parties with each other, and naturally, people will contribute and invite us to even more events.

That's the gist of playing the social circle game. Don't be the crazed banter monkey, the weird opinion-seeking guy, the I-statement & open-ended questions weirdo, or the contrived false leader of men (like being a lame "lair president"). Be normal, be boring, be fun, be unpredictable, be social, and be in the moment.

Heroes

Heroes. Have you seen this tv show? What is with our obsession that we, as individuals, are somehow that special? That we are endowed with some secret superpowers. This reminds me of some individuals, especially among those in the community, that they think they have the secret, cracked the code, divorced from the matrix, and can manipulate/hustle other people.

That's one thing people in cults believe... and same with those in the secret society of the community. A friend just sent this article about "Ways the community can make you weird." What a well thought-out, balanced article! The one thing that article failed to address is what I have been harping, the overselling of simple ideas that most people already know, and guys are busy seducing each other instead of girls.

What a blast!

This Halloween probably aged me several years! Damn, too much partying and I'm not sure I can handle the 3rd round of parties this weekend. Being here during the winter months can be depressing, and surprisingly, I am walking around with a smile all morning even though I'm dead tired. I can't imagine what I'd be like if I had more booze.

I was going to post something about starting my 99 lonely nights of winter. But I just can't, that would be lying when I am surrounded by so many happy people, going to parties without any community guys,... Ah, life is good!

Keep up the good work, guys! I'm going to take a break and give this a go in a few weeks (again and again)!

Are you kidding me? This is my only way of getting some more attention from guys... gay guys! I wouldn't give up blogging about social retards so easily.